A proportion of the messages I get through my contact form are from distressed visitors, who are convinced someone has cursed them because they’ve had a series of unfortunate events happen to them recently. In this article I want to talk about what curses really are and how they can happen.
Are curses even real? Or are you just paranoid?
First of all, yes, curses are real. People do place them on one another (although it is fairly rare and nowhere near as scary as people tend to think).
In this article, I will talk about some common scenarios of how curses get placed. I’ll also publish another article later on this week about how you can get rid of curses or spells and protect yourself from negative energy.
What are curses and how do people place them?
Have you ever felt so angry or mistreated by someone that you wanted some kind of revenge? In our darkest moments, we can utter words like ‘I hope he suffers like I have’. Any time we wish ill on another person and when we put energy and emotion behind it (even if it’s only in that moment), that is real curse energy.
Creating curses isn’t rare. After all, people get in conflict with one another, hate one another, have moments of anger and get resentful about things that happen. Curse energy goes out to people. That’s no big deal.
But here’s when it becomes a big deal…
…When the person who has been cursed decides to take on that curse energy into their energy field.
That doesn’t happen that often, but it can happen in one of two ways:
1. When the cursed person feels they deserve the curse because they feel guilty about something.
Here’s an example: let’s say Mary is dating a guy, or maybe I should say: “going out with a bloke.”) This bloke is called Rob. They have been in a relationship for six months and Mary is crazy about Rob and Rob seems to be crazy about her. She is convinced he is going to propose and that she has found ‘the one’. He seems to feel the same way. Then a few months later by chance she finds out he already has a fiancée and has had one the whole time they were seeing each other. She is gutted, but above all, incredibly angry that he deceived her.
Rob is a bit of a ratbag so although he feels a bit guilty, he doesn’t do much to say sorry. He just disappears off the scene, which makes Mary even angrier. She wants revenge. At her angriest, Mary wishes Rob a very unhappy married life with his fiancée.
Rob feels guilty that he deceived Mary and that he never really apologized to her, and on an unconscious level, accepts the energy of that curse into his energy field.
If he’s very sensitive or perceptive, he may actually have some conscious awareness of having taken the angry curse energy from Mary somehow. He may notice that it is dragging him down a little and he may feel it weighing on him.
His sense of guilt and responsibility for her anger acts as a receptor for the curse she put on him. It’s really a lot less spooky than it sounds, but it CAN be damaging when it happens.
So that’s one common scenario for curses. There is one more receptor for real curse energy and that is fear.
2. When someone is really scared
Let me give you an example of this:
Let’s say Mary joins an evangelical church that is very controlling. The people in the church want to dictate how she dresses, who she spends time with, the work she does. It’s all a bit cultish. She begins to freak out and decides to leave. The people in the church attempt to re-enlist her in their church, saying that God is angry with her and that she needs to do as they say (this is a true story and actually happened to me.)
The next bit is not a true story though…
Lets say even though Mary is really scared, she decides not to have anything to do with the church again and ignores their calls and invitations. One of them gets angry and asks God to curse her for her sins. God doesn’t oblige so he goes ahead and curses her himself. Mary is at a real all-time low in her life – she is scared of these people, she is vulnerable and her defences are down. She has a panic attack. That fear acts as a receptor for the curse energy because she doesn’t have much control over her own energy field at that moment. The curse energy attaches to her simply because she believes it has real power over her.
That is really the key here – curses can only affect you if you believe they can OR if you believe you deserve the curse.
When You are Probably Not Cursed
Sometimes people write to me because another ‘psychic’ has told them that they have been cursed and that they need to pay a fee to remove it. This happens a lot online, especially when free readings are advertised – you hand over your email address and the psychic gives you a general cold reading that is sent out to everyone. You think it might be real. Then the psychic starts to harrass you day after day, telling you that you’re cursed and for $50 they’ll remove the curse. These ‘psychics’ aren’t psychic – they’re scammers. This has happened to me online several years ago (I got hounded every day by a psychic who wanted to convince me I was cursed) and it’s what often happens when you enter your email address into a form for a free reading. So I’d advise against signing up for free readings (even though I’ve offered genuine ones myself in the past in exchange for signing up to my newsletter, the genuine ones are few and far between.) Now I only give paid readings (now offered by my colleague Kate Strong).
If a psychic tells you you’re cursed and wants money to remove it, it’ll definitely be a lie. No honest energy worker or psychic will pick up that you have a curse and then demand money for removing it.
This is also partly because you can remove a curse yourself (and heal any receptors you may have for curse energy) – so you don’t need to pay someone to remove it for you. You just need to know how to remove it. (I will write more about this in the next article.)
If you would like more advice on choosing a reputable psychic, check out my article: 4 Tips for Choosing a Psychic.
Got any further questions about curses? Or comments about this article? Leave me a reply and I’ll get back to you.