Tag: higher self

  • Encounters with Ghosts

    Encounters with Ghosts

    Were you fascinated by ghosts as child? I know I was. I would spend my lunch times in the school library, looking at books about ghosts and scaring myself silly with ghost pictures, like this one:

    (This is a famous photograph taken in Newby Church, Yorkshire, and although it looks kind of fake to me now, it didn’t when I was a child!)

    I was both fascinated and terrified by ghosts growing up. My first brush with a ghost was when I was about five or six years old, in our family home. The more I developed my intuitive abilities in my early twenties, the more I perceived ghosts. In my own home I rarely came into contact with a ghost, but I regularly came into contact with ghosts in hotels and in friends’ houses.

    I spent the last three and a half weeks on holiday in England. During my holiday, I visited Blickling Hall in Norfolk, which is the supposed birthplace of Anne Boleyn (the second wife of King Henry VIII, who was beheaded by him in 1536 for adultery). Legend has it her birthplace Blickling Hall is haunted by her headless ghost, among the many ghosts that reside there.

    I was looking forward to having a look inside and seeing what I might ‘pick up’ about the place but unfortunately only the grounds were open – the actual building was shut for the winter.

    The afternoon spent at Blickling Hall reminded me that I’ve never written about the topic of ghosts, even though I get lots of questions about ghosts from readers.

    What Are Ghosts?

    Ghosts are the mental and emotional bodies of the deceased. (Another term for them is ‘earthbound spirits’.)

    They exist in the astrals, but have not fully crossed over to the astral realm and so a part of them is still on Earth. They are often found in hospitals, police stations, funeral parlours, cemeteries, bars, clubs, and hotels.

    Ghosts can stay behind on the earth plane for a variety of reasons. For example, if a recently deceased soul believes they have done something wrong that they will be judged for, they may refuse to cross over. Or if a soul had an addiction when they were incarnated that they are not ready to release, they may also be reluctant to cross over. And when someone dies suddenly and unexpectedly and the person is too shocked and distressed to cross over and leave their life behind, they may choose to stay on the earth plane. Unfinished business can also cause a soul to keep a part of themselves on the earth plane, long after their life has ended.

    (Important note: don’t confuse ghosts with the popular term ‘negative entities’. Ghosts are not scary or even inherently negative – they were once incarnated people.)

    How Ghosts Affect us

    Ghosts can occupy homes and can attach to peoples’ auras too. When they do this, they drain energy, which is one reason why it’s not a good idea to keep ghosts hanging around, no matter how much we like them!

    One ghost will drain a very small amount of energy. But the more ghosts you have hanging around you, the more draining it becomes. The second reason why ghosts are to be avoided is because by nature they are emotionally unstable and very susceptible to negative emotions. When they attach to someone, they amplify and echo any pain and negative emotion in a person’s energy field. So if you feel angry and have one hundred earthbound spirits in your energy field, that anger will be amplified. The same goes for any fear, pain or guilt. Those negative emotions can be reduced by removing any earthbound spirits that are present (although note that removing the spirits might do nothing to remove the actual root cause of the negative emotion – these spirits simply echo negative emotion that is already there – they do not create it.)

    What’s It Like When a Ghost Comes a-knocking?

    Perhaps you have also had the experience of feeling a presence in your home or somewhere else. Here’s what it feels like for me:

    It often happens as I’m falling asleep. The sides of my head get hot and start tingling.  Next, faces I don’t recognize start flashing through my mind’s eye furiously and usually, one or two will stick in my mind’s eye.  If I attempt to sleep, I get woken up, sometimes as often as every ten minutes or so and it feels like someone has hit me on the side of the head to wake me.  (This happens mostly in hotels and friends’ houses – it has only happened once in my own home.) If it goes on for long enough, I can clearly see in my mind’s eye the entity that is bothering me. The last time this happened in a friend’s house, I was told by the family living there that the description I gave of the entity I saw in my mind’s eye matched exactly the previous owner of the house who was known to be haunting the property.

    Who Attracts Ghosts?

    Sensitive, empathic and intuitive people often notice ghosts.  And ghosts notice sensitive people and are attracted to their auras because they are so open.

    Your aura may be even more open if you practise automatic writing, channelling or mediumship, and you are willing to channel whoever ‘comes through’.  Ideally, you would want to be channelling your Guides in spirit or your Higher self – not just any old spirit. For this reason, I recommend starting an automatic writing session by addressing your Higher self or Spirit Guides. Because if you are willing to open up to whoever comes through, you may actually be channelling the emotional body of a ghost who is still around on earth because they couldn’t let go of their physical addiction (as an example). That’s the earthly equivalent of asking someone who is on drugs or addicted to drugs, for advice on your latest life issue.  It’s possible that you might not get very helpful advice because it is could be coming from a place of stuckness and fear (remember that many ghosts won’t cross over because of fear, pain or sometimes a desire for revenge.)

    In the first chapter of my Intuitive Awakening Course, we get clear on who it is OK to channel, for exactly this reason – there is no point asking for advice from disembodied entities who have no more (or even a lot less) perspective than you do on your own life. If you do end up channelling a ghost, the channelled information may not be very coherent or helpful.

    How to Avoid Channelling Ghosts

    To prevent ghosts entering your aura, don’t open yourself up to channel just any old spirit.  Instead, channel your Higher self or the beings who were assigned to you to help you on your path (i.e. Spirit Guides and Guardian Angels.)  When you do channeling, request to channel your Spirit Guides, Guardian Angels or Higher self only – those beings who are with you at the choice of your soul.

    Those who smoke marijuana can also attract ghosts in even larger numbers because this substance opens up your aura to these spirits.

    What about you – ever had an encounter with a ghost? What happens for you when you perceive one? Do you have any further questions about ghosts? (I may write another article on this subject.) Feel free to share your experiences in the comments.

  • Where Does Intuition Come From?

    Where Does Intuition Come From?

    Some people believe that intuition is data from your subconscious mind, based on past experiences and patterns, which is introduced into your conscious mind spontaneously.

    I actually think that intuition is more than just your subconscious trying to direct you towards pleasure and away from pain. Intuition, to me, is a spontaneous notification or alert from your Higher self or Spirit Guides of something that they want you to know. The one defining trait of intuition is that it includes information that would be challenging (or impossible) to see from your current perspective.

    The Purpose of Your Intuition

    Being in a physical body without any input from the spiritual part of you (your Higher self) can be challenging – it’s like being on the ground, unable to see the wood for the trees, not knowing which direction to go in, with a limited perspective.

    On the other hand, your Higher self has the ability to see your life from a different vantage point – like being on top of a mountain and having a bird’s eye view of the life going on below in the valley. Because your Higher self has a higher vantage point, your HS has access to the bigger picture of what’s going on, in your life, in your past, present and future and in the world around you.

    Your Higher self can alert you to:

    • The truth about the people around you
    • What’s going to happen in your future – short and long term
    • Why something happened in your life – cause and effect and how you can fix it
    • When you can avoid danger or an unpleasant experience
    • Which activities, work, relationships, will contribute towards your happiness and serve you on your path of growth and evolution as a human and spiritual being. He/she also knows which activities/work/relationships will not serve you and take you away from your ‘highest path and purpose.’

    Input from the Higher self is like a guiding system – a GPS – of what will bring you the most joy and what won’t. One of the easiest ways to keep you on track and connected to what your Spirit wants, is through your intuition.

    How the Higher Perspective of My Guides and Higher Self Has Helped Me

    I personally constantly get feedback from my Higher self about which activities will bring me most joy and abundance, through clairsentience. When I’m undertaking something that isn’t really in alignment with my highest path and purpose, I begin to worry more and I get stressed. So then I usually change to a course of action that does bring me joy and which is in alignment with my highest path and purpose. But sometimes I get really harassed by my Higher self before that happens.

    Information about all of the above can come from Spirit Guides too. Just like your Higher self, your Spirit Guides have a higher, more complete perspective than you do as a human being. You could say that they are all on a mountain top of their own, so they each have a unique vantage point from which to see your life. They are not omniscient – they don’t know everything, but collectively they can see a lot about your life. One Spirit Guide often has insights about one life in particular – they all have specialties. So one Spirit Guide may deliver insights about your relationships and another may deliver insights about your health.

    In the several readings I’ve had with other psychics, I have been given many insights from my Spirit Guides and Higher self about all of the above – especially regarding my future. Erin Pavlina picked up that I’d be doing intuitive readings in the future, because my Higher self already had this all mapped out.

    About twelve months ago, a different psychic told me that I’d be moving to New Zealand/Australia within the next 18 months, and at the time I really didn’t want to, as I was enjoying life in London and couldn’t imagine wanting to leave. But then a few months later I met an Australian guy and decided to move to Australia six months later. My plans changed again a few months after that and I ended up in New Zealand which is where I am now.

    So, I actually get most of the information about my future through dreams or from other psychics rather than from my intuition. My intuition is much more likely to direct me away from negative people or situations or move me towards my highest path and purpose, or save me time or energy here and there. And for me personally, it feels like most of my intuition comes from my Higher self rather than from my Spirit Guides. Although if I actively tune in through my psychic connection, I’m more likely to get to speak with my Spirit Guides than my Higher self.

    Some intuition can also happen as a result of ‘vibes’ or energy transmissions that you pick up from other peoples’ energy bodies. For example, you can meet someone and can sense that they are defensive before they even open their mouth. In this case, you are reading the vibes they are transmitting and responding to them, which is also a form of intuition that does not directly involve the Higher self or Spirit Guides.

  • How to Connect with Your Higher Self

    How to Connect with Your Higher Self

    Your Higher self is the spirit part of you that is said to ‘reside’ in the Ether (the non-physical realm). It’s your Divine spark. This part of you helps you to keep on track with your life purpose, and in touch with your passion and joy.

    Is my Higher self the same as my Soul?

    Yes. It’s the part of you that has access to all the wisdom amassed over the course of the many lifetimes you’ve lived, past, present and future.

    What does my Higher self do?

    Your Higher self is like a pure background consciousness that offers forth its wisdom and directions about where to go now. Sometimes these directions can take a while to come through into your mind consciousness. However, there are ways to access the wisdom of your Higher self directly by bypassing the mind.

    Your Higher self is not ‘out there’ in the Ether. I want to put forward the idea that your Higher self is you, your consciousness, in your body.

    It’s you who set the course of your life and the things you came here to learn about before you even got here. It’s you who is whispering guidance to yourself about your highest path and purpose. It’s you who set that up as a mechanism by which you could use those as spiritual feedback about where you’re headed in your life.

    Am I ever separate from my Higher self? I don’t feel connected to my Spirit

    You can sometimes be alienated from your Higher self when you have limiting beliefs which block you from the truth of who you are as a spirit.

    Have you ever caught a glimpse of all the possibilities that exist for you? Have you ever had a feeling that you’re here to contribute something unique? Those are background input from your Higher self. We mostly drown out such input with our thoughts and fears, and when we listen to our fear, we feel disconnected from our spirit.

    How can I be more connected to my Higher self?

    Connecting to your Higher self means living your Spirit. It involves three things.

    1. Empowerment – remembering that you are a child of the Universe, with the power to create your world

    You came here to be incarnated in the physical and to keep a connection to your Spirit intact. You want to keep a connection to your Higher self because that’s the part of you which knows where to go, what to take on the journey, and also what to do to get there. Many souls who are incarnated here already do not have that connection anymore. They’ve lost it because they see themselves as separate from God or from the Divine energy that is the Creator of all things. People often treat themselves as if they’re at the mercy of an outside force that controls the course of our lives. This is the ‘normal’ way to be and behave.

    Living your Spirit means remembering that you are God energy or Source energy in a physical body, and you are also the co-creator of your world. The power inside you to create your world is the same power that creates worlds. You can utilize that power to create the world you want.

    2. Intuition – talking to yourself

    You don’t need to contact your Higher self as an entity outside of you – it is you! And you don’t need to get an intuitive reading in order to contact your Higher self (although you can if you’re particularly alienated and don’t know where you’re headed or what you want). The wisdom is inside of you, if you will access it.

    Listen to your desires

    Above all, pay attention to your desires. Your truest, heartfelt desires are feedback from your Higher self about what you want to do now.

    Living from your Higher self means not sacrificing or ignoring those desires. It also means listening to those desires on a daily basis.

    I manage my day by asking myself ‘what do I really want to do now?’

    You might think that asking myself that means that the stuff I don’t want to do never gets done but it’s not the case. I actually regularly become inspired to overcome the challenges and the difficult tasks also, when the time is right, or I bring in someone to help me. I take my desires as feedback about the direction I want to go in. And when I remember to do it, it allows me to live in an inspired way.

    Meditate and quiet your mind

    The quickest way to practise accessing your truest self is meditation. It quietens the mind and the chatter which tells you who you are and what you can and can’t do and be and takes you straight to the quiet and calm which is your Higher self. Start meditating by just focusing on your breath or the tip of your nose. Every time your attention wanders, just bring it back to your breath (or the tip of your nose, depending on what you’re focusing on.)

    Let’s have a look at the third and final step to help you connect with your Higher self:

    3. Healing – letting go of the clutter which stands between you and your truest self

    Most people who need healing don’t necessarily know what they need – they just know that they feel bad. So what can you do if you mostly feel bad? What if you don’t know what to do to heal that? You can just put out the intention to be as aligned as possible with your Higher self. Putting out that intention will put you on a healing journey back towards who you are.

    If you have the energy to be proactive, make it your work to clear away anything which is not aligned with who you really are.

    Here are some articles & resources for healing that you might find helpful:

  • Risks and Divine Harassment

    Risks and Divine Harassment

    Three times in the past year, my Higher self has asked me to take risks. Two of them were big, scary, life-changing risks. The people around me – friends, family – generally think I make stupid decisions that by lucky chance lead to good stuff happening. What really happens is that my Higher self harasses me to take certain action- I see an opportunity to do something and it seems too big and scary to pursue, but I get this intuitive voice which starts singing ‘do it, do it’. And it doesn’t stop bugging me until I go down the path my spirit wants to take. Some of the paths are scary for me, and lead to short-term discomfort. And sometimes I wish I could ignore the spirit part of me that loves going out exploring.

    Starting an online business

    If you’ve read my blog before, you’ll know that in February of 2008, I quit my job teaching English in Spain and went back to the UK to start this business doing professional Akashic Record readings. At the time, I was pretty scared, because I had no money or savings, no website, a very small client base and no business or internet skills. Most people thought I would fail, and that seemed like a reasonable assessment.

    My old job bored me to tears and I’d rather have been unemployed than doing a job I hated. For a few months prior to quitting, I was walking around with a volcano of dissatisfaction in me. My Higher self sang the same old tune every day for about three months ‘quit your job, go back home’. Staying there made me miserable and I had lots of health problems which got better as soon as I went back home. And luckily for me, the online business thing worked out and I woke up every day grateful that I could do work I loved.

    Long-term benefit out of 10= 10

    Short-term unpleasantness = 5

    Investing in an expensive business workshop

    The next time Spirit decided it was time to harass me again was in July 2008 when I came across a business workshop held by Bernadette Doyle.

    I had been receiving Bernadette’s newsletter for some time and by chance clicked onto the sales page for her business development workshop that she was giving in the Autumn and my Higher self whispered ‘ready to do something scary again?’

    The workshop cost a lot (and perhaps a reckless amount to pay when you’ve only been in business for a few months and when you don’t really have that kind of money, except when you dig into your overdraft and credit cards.)

    I closed the page and thought ‘no way’. But over the next few hours it was all I could think about. My Higher self was singing that song again. I knew I had to do it.

    The workshop turned out to be fantastic and propelled me forward in ways I didn’t expect. I’m still amazed by the secondary benefits of doing it. It gave me greater confidence to create the business I want and gave me much clarity about what kind of business I wanted long-term and how I’m going to get there. But it involved so much sacrifice in the short term, I ended up being quite pissed off about it.

    Long-term benefit= 5-6

    Short-term unpleasantness = 6

    Going to Australia to meet my online boyfriend

    In October 2008, I began an online relationship with a guy who lives in Australia. I was living in London. We met on a forum and got talking. And we never really stopped talking from that day onwards. We talked every day for hours. And I knew that I wanted to meet him.

    So about six weeks ago, I booked a plane ticket to meet him and we spent three lovely weeks together. So lovely that I didn’t want to go back. My spirit started singing that song again. So we discussed me staying; he was all for it and I got a one-year visa to stay in Australia.

    I’m not sure what the benefits of taking this action will be, but I trust that something wonderful will come of it. Already in this relationship, I have learned so much about communication and myself. I’m very excited that I get to spend more time with someone I really like.

    Long-term benefit= I don’t know yet!

    Short-term unpleasantness = 7? (I left my life, friends and flat behind in London.)

    How do you get your intuitive nudges to take action that scares you? Do you follow them?

    What song is your Spirit singing to you right now?

    Does it involve any risk taking?

    Do you dare?