How The Dead Communicate With Us

Here are some of the ways deceased loved ones communicate with us from the other side:

#1: Through Dreams

When we are dreaming, we are very open to communication from deceased loved ones and from the other side in general. This is because we’re already in the astral planes, which is a non-physical place that we visit when we’re asleep. It’s easier for our deceased loved ones to ‘meet us half-way’, energetically speaking, by visiting us there.

I had a dream visitation from my great-grandmother (my mother’s grandmother) a few days before my mother got remarried in 2007 (although I didn’t realize at the time that it was a dream visitation.) Great-granny turned up, looking frail, grey and old – just how I remember her. The only thing she said to me in the dream was “your mother looks lovely in brown”. I felt a great deal of affection coming from her even though I hadn’t known her very well when she was alive. It was a nice dream, but I forgot about it soon after I woke up.

A couple of days later, I was out shopping with my mother for something to wear on her wedding day and we had looked all over town for the right dress for her to get married in, but we hadn’t found anything suitable.

Then, just before the shops were shutting at the end of the day, we found a gorgeous brown dress. My mum tried on the brown dress and it fit beautifully and she looked gorgeous in it. It was perfect. Then all of a sudden I remembered the dream where great-granny had told me that mum looked lovely in brown and I told mum about it. She smiled and said “Great-granny always used to tell me how nice I looked in brown.” Mum thought it was just a coincidence that she had found a brown dress but I felt like it was great-granny giving her blessing from the other side.

How do you know if your deceased loved one is visiting you in a dream or not?

I’ve had a few dreams with deceased spirits in them since then and they’ve all ‘felt’ very similar to me.

It’s hard to put my finger on it exactly, but for me, the ‘climate’ or ‘mood’ of the dream changes when a deceased spirit shows up. You might feel their love or affection for you, transmitted in the dream whereas before there was no particular mood or feeling to the dream. The setting of the dream may suddenly change to somewhere quite symbolic and it may become more vivid. You will often have the dream just before you wake up so that you remember it.

#2: Deceased Spirits Can Move Objects

Can the dead move objects? Yes, it is possible. Don’t ask me to explain how deceased spirits manage to mess with objects. I just know they can and do.

My mum’s sister who passed away from ovarian cancer around two years ago made her presence felt in a few different ways after her death.

Shortly after she passed away, my mother’s sister visited me in a dream and told me that she was messing with the clocks in my grandmother’s house. I rang up my grandmother the next morning to tell her what I had dreamt and she told me that the grandfather clock in their lounge had stopped overnight with the pendulum in the wrong position and they couldn’t get it to work again (it had never happened before and they’d had it for decades.)

Another time a book that belonged to my mother’s sister about ovarian cancer fell off the bookshelf while my grandmother was in the room.

#3: Communication Through Signs from Nature

The world of spirit is entwined with and superimposed onto the physical world and the natural world. You just have to be looking for spirit in order to see it. I’ve heard of deceased spirits sending natural symbols which were meaningful to them when they were alive – such as flowers, birds, animals or animal symbolism. Other signs from nature include rainbows, the person’s favourite flower taking up residence in your garden randomly – that sort of thing.

A while ago my mother told me about a local man here in New Zealand who died in a diving accident. He hit his head and drowned while diving in some coastal caves. When they recovered his body, three whales were sighted nearby, on the coast, hanging around the area where the body had been recovered. (Whales are the Maori symbol of divine protection.) In this area of New Zealand, whales rarely show up on the coast – you have to go many miles out to sea to see them. So that was interesting in itself. Then a few weeks later they were having a memorial service for this man in the place where he died, three whales showed up again.

#4: Communication Through Mediums and through your psychic senses

Deceased spirits are energy, like your spirit guides, so they can impulse us and connect with us in a similar way if they are around. But I do believe that it is easier to communicate with spirit guides than it is to communicate with deceased spirits. This is because spirit guides are connected to you, so if you tune into a person’s energy, you can also tune into their guides fairly easily if you know how. But deceased spirits are not attached to you as such.

So, if you cannot connect with a deceased loved one through a medium, don’t despair. There are many reasons why the communication might not be successful.

Remember that the ether is far removed from the physical plane. Communicating with the other side is a little like building a bridge (made of energy). It’s like you are on one mountain, in the physical plane and the dead on another in the ether. In between you is a valley. In order for you to make contact, someone, or both parties has to build a bridge. You can build an energetic bridge by raising your vibration and opening up your psychic senses and the deceased spirit can build half of the bridge by lowering theirs to meet you halfway. Sometimes deceased spirits may not be available to build their part of the bridge because they’re working on the next stage of their soul’s journey. Some recently deceased spirits want to build the bridge but they’re not yet fully comfortable in their new energetic state and cannot.

Even if you cannot connect with your deceased loved ones through a medium or if they are not showing you signs of them being around you, you can still honour and love them in other ways.

One of the best ways of honouring another soul is by letting them go.

You’ve probably heard the saying ‘if you love someone, set them free’. This is as true in death as it is in life. Deceased spirits can really benefit from permission to leave and go and pursue the next stage of their long journey. I know deceased ones who still have one foot in this dimension one year after their death because they feel guilty for leaving their family behind.

My grandmother told me about a friend of a friend who punched her dying husband in the face (he’d had a heart attack) because she was so angry that he was leaving her. My grandmother always found that story quite funny and sad at the same time. I’m thinking of this story because we do send out clear messages to dying and deceased loved ones about whether they are allowed to cross over that will affect their willingness to move on. And of course it is natural to want to hold onto people.

Something that is very powerful is to give your loved one permission to die while they are still alive. My grandfather did this in the moments before one of our relatives was on her deathbed. He talked to her to sleep like a little child, telling her that it was OK to go and to not be afraid. She died shortly after.

During the funeral, some native cultures consider that the spirit of the dead person is there, so they address them directly and tell them that it’s OK to cross over fully now. Then, they promise to honour their dead and check in with them at certain times, like on the anniversary of their death.

Even after they are gone, you can speak to your deceased loved one and tell them that it’s OK to move on. They will hear you.

You can also honour the dead by focusing on new life

Death is not just an ending. With it, new life begins, although you do not see the new life and the new stages in the evolution of the soul of your loved one (you only see the ending which is what causes grief). Know that your loved one lives on, and experiences new life and goes on to the next stage in their soul’s evolution, even if you cannot see it. You can honour and witness this cycle symbolically through planting something beautiful and seeing it grow.

How have your deceased loved ones got your attention? Please leave a comment if you have something to share.

This article is the third part in a series of articles about the afterlife. The first two articles were:

What Happens After Death

Is There Life After Death?


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448 Responses to “How The Dead Communicate With Us”

  1. Vicky says:

    Hello, for some reason death has always affected me in deep ways, I feel a connection immediately to dead people even though I don’t like feeling this way. Last night I had a dream where strangers that had just died could communicate with me (I had never seen these people before). In my dream, I got three encounters with each dead person, after the third encounter they were free to go. During these encounters they told me things that do not make sense to me, regarding their lives or things they wanted me to pass on to people living, one man told me to tell his wife to be cautious of a certain person because that person had something to do with his death (he had been murdered) and she was in danger. In this dream, I tried hiding from these spirits, but they could see through things in order to find me in order to communicate with me and each get their three visits.
    In real life every time I have dealt with death, I feel a deep connection to the person after the death, in certain cases, they come to me in “dreams” to help their families in a certain way, however the dream last night has got me feeling uneasy, I do not wish to open any path of communication with dead strangers, I’m scared…
    I don’t watch any T.V, just want to mention that so no one thinks this could be happening, I have been without cable for about 6 months now, didn’t have a need for it.
    What could be happening?

  2. Dot says:

    My beloved son committed suicide 8 weeks ago.I had a dream 4 weeks ago that a police officer knocked on my door I knew what he was going to tell me But I didn’t want to hear it so I told him to go out the back & Ill be out soon,when I finally went out he was sitting there with my son next to him.Even though my son didn’t actully speak I knew what he was thinking,he was confused & couldn’t work out what was happening,I had to explain to him what happened & that he died,he than went though some sort of door,I tried to go after him but I was stopped by 4 men coming back though the door.Then last night I dreamt we were on a family holiday & he was there I knew he was had died but he was so happy & relaxed,it felt so real.

  3. Lisa says:

    My Dad passed away 3 weeks ago 24th december 2011 christmas eve, he had cancer and had been in the hospital for the last 9 months of his life he contracted 2 hospital super bugs and he got sepsis which was what directly caused his death he was 56. Afew hours after he had passed i left the hospital to go home around midnight and when i walked outside i looked up and saw a shooting star, afew hours later around 3am my Dads best friend was outside his house and he saw a shooting star aswell,he was also at the hospital when my Dad passed. Other things have happened to family members and close frinds since Dads passing also.
    On saturday night i was on my own at home watching a dvd and a sad song came on which made me cry and i said out loud i miss you Dad, 5 minutes later i heard this strange noise which i thought was the dvd but then it kept happening over and over again so i got up and tried to find what it was and it turned out that it was my sons remote control car it was driving on its own, i was shocked and thought no it couldn’t be, then the next day i was sitting with my son watching his cartoons and the remote control car was still there then my son went outside to play with his friends and 2 minutes after he walked out the door the car started going again, i knew then it was my Dad giving me a sign that he is ok.

    What do you think?


  4. Tora says:

    Dear Lisa,

    So sorry to hear about your Dad passing over. My mother died 22 years ago and there were many signs.
    I am absolutely positive that your son’s car was moved by your father letting him know he had heard you and that he was there with you.
    Trust your knowingness. I am sure there will be more signs from your Dad.

  5. Suzie says:

    Tora, You’re so right!!! I told of a story on this site where I had to go through my dad’s office to look for an old headset he had. I was going through boxes and felt like I was invading his privacy and said out loud, “Dad you know I hate rifling through your things, tell me where the headset is.” Just as I said that, a bag in the room made noises – a handheld game of dad’s went off spontaneously, and you know what else was in that bag – the headset!!! Aren’t we so fortunate to have this connection to those we love? My dad died in June 2010, but the signs come all of the time!

  6. Gaynor says:

    Hello to all, I posted on here nearly 3 months ago and things are still so raw, but about a month ago I spoke to my Dad on his photo stroking his picture saying please tell me you are ok and in and lovely place, just give me a sign…I had the radio on and at that moment Tina Turner,Simply The Best came on, which we both loved and had it playing at the intro to his funeral…shocked and overwhelmed was my reaction, maybe it was a coincidence but it felt nice…interested to see a medium then I can think its time to let go,however how hard it will be…love to all missing our loved ones x

  7. Kathy says:

    My husband of 34 years passed away in January of 09. Several things happened after his passing that has made me feel he is here with me. First—the night he died my girlfriend stayed with me. Everyone had left and we were getting ready to go to bed when the doorbell rang—no one was there—shut the door—-again the bell rang–it happened three times that night. The next morning I was looking for his death certificate and military papers and was having a hard time locating them. When I did—the doorbell rang. Then no more doorbell ringing. My neighbor called me and said her mother who lives in her basement kept finding dimes. Well this happened to her when her husband passed and her daughter told her my husband would be leaving me dimes not her and laughed it off and went upstairs to make her bed and there was a dime right in the middle. When she called to tell me I went over to my kitchen counter where my kids were standing to tell them and looked down and there was a dime. I have found dimes at very meaningful times since. Also was in the dentists office to have a tooth fixed the Friday after he passed and was in the room alone after given novicane when the song they sang at our wedding came on. Now this song was from the 50′s. What is the chance of the happening. I know he was there. Also orbs in pictures have shown up where he would have sat if he were still here and an orb on a picture of quilt made for me a year after he died. It was made out of his old jeans and shirts. I know he is still here with me. You say to let them go—I am having a hard time doing that. Time does help but I miss him so much.

  8. Raven says:

    Hi Harry,
    I just wanted to say that the contact my dead father has made with
    me was never planned by me….he just showed up. From meeting him
    in dreams to feeling his unmistakable presence in the room, these
    things happened without prior warning. I was not seeking them.

    You could be trying to hard.
    Maybe just let your trying go. Then, one afternoon you may
    smell your mother’s favorite perfume in the room very strongly.
    Or, you may be doing something and suddenly hear your father’s
    voice telling you to do it differently…maybe the way he had shown you
    when he was here!
    Or, you may meet one of them in a dream. Meeting a loved one in
    a dream is unmistakable. You will know it when it happens.

    One can try to hard for things sometimes, I feel, and block out even
    strong messages. So relax, and stop thinking about it if you can. :-)

  9. Raven says:

    Hi Dot,

    Sorry for your loss. You must be going through alot right now.
    This dream, to me, sounds like you helped him understand his passing,
    and what to do next. It’s nice he made contact with you for help.
    You must have had a very close relationship with him while he was here.

    As far as a deceased talking in dreams, I have found they never move their
    lips to speak. It’s all done telepathically. I feel it’s a pretty common thing, too.
    I’ve come across others who mention their loved ones speak to them through
    their mind, and not by speech. Things are much different on that plane than
    Take care,

  10. Raven says:

    Hi Vicky,

    Before you go to sleep at night you may want to tell them,
    out loud, that you do not want to have communication with
    the dead while sleeping. It could be just that simple.
    You won’t know until you try it.

    Good luck!


  11. harry says:

    Hi Raven, thanks for your message, would like you to know that I am grateful for your contact. With all the other problems going on in my life right now, it would have been nice to at least get some kind of indication that i am not alone- however it looks that after all this time it isn’t going to happen. I am sorry for questioning my dearly held beliefs in the paranormal but maybe I am of far too a lower vibration to make me sensitive or maybe I am not worthy and someone out there is just having a laugh at my expense…whatever, but I really did think that knowing what sort relationship I had with my parents I would have thought that at least one of them would have made contact because if they are there then they must surely see and here my pleas. Trouble is a lot of these ideas on the here after and such like do vary from teller to teller and I end up questioning my very own beliefs, how would trying too hard prevent them from getting through, other sources say keep trying, with multiple suggestions about trying to higher my vibration and all sorts of things, I am bound in the end to come away a none believer and that would be so sad. Harry.

  12. Raven says:

    Harry, you bring up some good points, and really, no one knows why your loved one’s don’t make contact with you. That doesn’t mean, though, that you have to become a non-believer. No doubt you’ve had other experiences with the paranormal, or else you wouldn’t have started into it in the first place.

    You know, maybe it’s not you, but them. Maybe they do not know how to get in touch with you. That may sound silly, but it makes me wonder since some, like yourself, never have contact with dead loved ones. Maybe some of them just need help.

    To help you, and them, out have you tried things like automatic writing, tarot cards, or journeying? Maybe using some kind of vehicle such as these would help bridge the difficult gap between you all. It’s certainly worth a try!


  13. Raven says:

    Hi Kathy, that’s a very interesting story about your husband who passed. I guess it’s possible we could tie them to this plane of existence with our attachments to them…I haven’t thought about it like that. I do feel that if they really, really want to communicate with us, they will find a way whether it’s through another person, or an animal, or an object. Long ago, our ancestors thought it a good thing to have deceased loved one’s spirits around. It was unknown, mischievous one’s they didn’t trust! But having Uncle Theodore, or Grandma Kelsey’s spirit hanging out was wonderful. They would even set a place for them at the table, or ask them to watch the house while they were away. In a way, it’s a shame we don’t still have those same kinds of feelings for our deceased. We would view life, and death so much differently….as they did!

    It may sound terrible to some, but, I feel you should enjoy your encounters with your husband as long as they’re not making you depressed, and sad. Nowadays, just knowing my dad is somewhere close by is very comforting. But then, each of us who encounters loved ones in this way must decide if these encounters are reassuring, and happy, or not to them.
    I hope you find yours to be heart warming. :-)

  14. annie says:

    my son committed suicide,but signs that he was happy and at peace was sent thru a medium,and a friend told me how i could communicate to him,made me ask the many questions which i could not have any answers to them ,made me realise that death comes in different ways and for some by putting their life here on earth to an end are much happier in the next plane.i keep talking to him in my mind and yet i tell him to move on,tho with great pain.regards annie.

  15. Candice says:

    Perhaps someone can help me decide whether I have gone mad or not. My fiance and soulmate in every sense of the word died on the 3rd of December 2011 from internal bleeding from cirhossis of the liver. That morning he still argued with the paramedic and told him to come and fetch him on Monday because he didn’t like hospitals on weekends. I had a charity function that day so i didn’t go with to the hospital because we figured it was just the usual varicie bleed. I only got to the hospital after 6. By this time Shane was already in a coma. None of us realised that it was going to be so bad this time. Eventually I couldn’t sit in the ICU any longer so I told him that I loved him very much but he could let go. I left the hospital and as i got home (20minute drive) the hospital phoned to say that he was gone.

    Since then strange stuff has been happening. Now I don’t know if I miss him so much that I am just desperate to find signs that he is still with me. The day after his funeral I went and bought a blackberry phone – when I put the sim card in, 20 messages came through all from Shane from 2009. The first one saying Cestlavie – I know what that message was about the first time he sent it but how strange that that was the first one to come through. The rest were “boo – i love you” and that type of thing.

    Then I went to my friend who channels. Shane came through to him and said that he loved me, he is sorry for everything he put me through, that his regret is leaving me behind but I need to go on and live my life. That he feels more alive now than he has done in years (he was diagnosed with cirohhsis in 2009) and when my time comes he will be there.

    This is killing me to write this because I miss him so much so if the spelling has gone out the window its because I am crying while I type.

    Anyway I have been dreaming of him but we don’t actually speak in my dreams but he is just there. Then at 4h50 this morning a song started playing on my blackberry. Its an Amy Winehouse song which is a remake of Be my baby. I don’t know if I am going mad or I am trying to hold on to him so much that now i am convinced that if anything remotely odd happens it must be tied to Shane somehow.

  16. harry says:

    candice, sorry to hear of your sad loss, and although it won.t be much use at the moment things will get easier for you, and you will have time to get your head around the whys and were fores of most aspects of your partners crossing, by the way you certainly are not going mad because you are actually questioning things and not just clutching at straws and believing everything that happens as being something to do with your partner, you may get many messages coming to you, just be greatfull he can do that, i wish my family could come through for me, best wishes, harry

  17. harry says:

    thanks raven for your contact once again, yes i have tried lowering my vibration and traveling, i have tried ouija, radionic pendulium, to name three, but nothing to date has worked, as for the pendulum i know only too well that i was being given totally wrong info, i think in fact it was me somehow influencing the thing even though i tried so hard not to, it felt so real and the pendulum seem to respond to the questions i was asking, but alas all wrong, has for me having some contact with the paranormal before as you suggest- i am not sure, it was not positive, and i am not leaving my self open to fits of over imagination, so it is not through contact with the spirit world or anything like that that makes me believe in the paranormal but other reasons, i see sometimes that catholosisme and things like the rosary are brought into the conversation on sites like these, i can,t really believe chrsistianity or islam indeed any established mundane belief system has got anything to offer appart from hundreds of years of dogma, for the desperate and feeble minded amongst us, i of course know that would upset some people but i want you to know where i am coming from on this, also when i hear someone setting them selves up as authority to talk on the subject of the paranormal and then waffling on about such things as the rosary makes me wonder where some people are coming from, RAVEN if you think i am wrong then tell me so but i don,t think you will, i think you will know exactly where i am coming from and agree, i had to tell you these things so you know that any future contact can be on a level where you do not have to worry about upsetting any deeply held moronic religious beliefs because i got over all that when i grew up and was able at last to work things out for my self, in fact when i was very young like 10 – 11 i would ask such questions like, if there is only one true religion why is there so many ? and why do they contradict one another ? deep thinking indeed from one so young, i even thought of my self as a christian once, no answers to anything there :( even as a young child i was asking questions and getting no answers, i was reading about astral projection at 15 was approached by jehovas witnesses when i was 16 and the scenario goes on, no offence meant to anyone but i just wish people would sometimes see things for what they are, religion that is , oh and isn,t it funny how everyone thinks that theres is the only one, i became a member of a well known paranormal society till i found out the patron of the very same society believed that he was once abducted by aliens and whisked off in a space ship somewhere, wasn,t having any of that thank you very much, i am a very logical thinker in spite of my beliefs and will not be easily convinced of anything, its taken me ny on 40 yrs to get to where i am now (if that is anywhere at all) RAVEN something else you may wish to know, as i said my father passed over in 1998 but in 1981 he had some sort of an attack at work and died, clinically dead for minutes and then they rescussitated him, now he didn,t believe in anything that i do, he in fact used to argue with me and tell me not to be so stupid, however while he was out for a while he had an out of body experience, he said (as so many do) that he was going down a tunnel towards a bright light and when he was some half way down this tunnel he heard a voice say, it wasn,t your time and that you had to go back, well he knew that there was more to things than what he thought and it took him a couple of years to tell me this, i suppose because of what he used to say to me, i have belived in re incarnation for nearly 30 years and as confusious may have said, the more you learn the less you know, so where now ? at my time of life with family neighbours and a number of friends all gone, and no way of contacting my love ones, i think i can be forgiven for getting depressed, not to mention other problems, anyway thanks for your interest once more, and i will look forward with gusto to your reply, yours harry, x

  18. sarah says:

    Hi, I wanted to say ((hugs))to everyone above whom has lost and i always wonder about my story and feel i relate a little to the above.
    I lost my partner of ten years in 2001 in my twenties he died of a long illness but the death was a shock. After he died (i never got to the hospital in time) i used to cry on my bed and ask for him to let me know he was okay. I would say make the tree shake, and looked out the window and saw nothing, i then realised if he did this then it would mean he wasn’t dead. I also said send a leaf though my window but nothing.

    A week later i went into my bedroom and my window as usual was open around three inches and on my pillow on my bed was a great leaf. (my bed was placed infront of the window also with the head board infront of the window. I did’nt see it as a total sign, around 10 days later or more another leaf on my pillow. I placed both leaves in an old book of his.

    The window stayed open and i lived there another two years and never got another leaf on my pillow.

    The closest thing we had was our cat Gizmo i had her grandmother Maxine and Gizmo came to live with us full time, she was very special and the love of my life never ever had a cat like her.

    She lived until she was 18.5 years old by chance she had the same illness as my partner a leaky heart value but she did very well. She began to suffer cluster siezures and i made the hard desicon to help her pass (she didn’t want to go still palying with toys etc.but i couldn’t let her go through the seizures and was sure one or the next one would kill her.

    She was put to sleep 21st Nov (im still howling) and i held her. She was to be cremated privatly and ashes returned to me. I wasn’t told when, on the Thursday i attended hospital for myself and ended up taking a wrong turning and ended up at the vets i then continued to the hospital. On the Frid night there was this wind in the early hours and sat morning at about 9.30am I had trouble with the gas fire and opened the living room window to let the smell out i was then closing it and this wind suddenly came up a leaf blew in turned left and landed on the window still where my cat used to sit.
    I did feel something and kept this leaf.
    Oon the sunday i was admitted to hospital when i returned home after a week following surgery i recieved messages from the vets on my phone that gizmos ashes were ready to collect. Due to not being able to drive i couldnt get there for a week.

    When i eventually got to vets i told the lovely woman at the desk the leaf story. And then i said to her I wonder when she was cremated, she said i don’t know it will say on the certificate, i said i think it was when i got that leaf the 23rd the sat. When she bought the box for me i read the certificate and it said the 23rd November.

    I kept this leaf, i miss my cat so much my dad died two years ago and two months after my stand in mum and i never reieved any leafs or signs.

    What do others think – i feel in my heart the two leafs are connected now too much of a coniencidence. (sorry for spelling) i guess my partner and gizmo were very special and i was too them.

  19. sarah says:

    sorry i have messed the dates up my cat was put to sleep 23rd nov on the wed and i got the leaf on the following sat 26th on the cremation card she was cremated on the 26th

  20. Piku says:


    On 26th dec 2011early morning around 5am I got a call from my mother telling me my maternal granny who was living with us for the past 19 years passed away in the bathroom. We are two sisters, and I am the younger one. I have never been close to my grandparents as my sister the favourite one. While my grandfather was alive I never felt his love and care towards me, was sort of the neglected one. I was about 12 when one day I told everyone in my family that at 78 my grandpa would die and at 83 my granny would die. I Don’t remember how I managed to say these that time. Strangely enough my grandpa exactly at 78 died of a heart attack. After his death many a time I saw him in my dreams even years after, seeing him in the middle of the road, following us, me talking to him. I remember one dream where I met him and brought him home overjoyed see ma grandpa is alive he has come back to be with us and shared so many stories. It felt so real and as I woke up I felt as if I actually was with him, but I never used to be my age in my dream. I used to be a child. I dreamt of similar dreams having him with me or with the family many time for more than 5 years and then they just stopped occurring.

    As I said I never shared a close relation with my grandparents as they showered all their love and care for my elder sister. I never felt jealous but hurt that why they never liked me or perhaps disliked me so much? I hardly spoke to my grandmother. Infect for about 10 years I didn’t speak to her, hated her for many of her nastiness that caused rift in the family. She had 4 heart attacks and though I helped her take to the hospital, visited her I never felt anything inside. But in the past two years, I fell sick, my personal life after marriage rocked, my health was failing. It was during that time that I bonded with my grandmother, we shared the same room. She used to be the witness to my fights with my husband over the phone, my wailings, sleepless nights and I used to be the witness to her loud snores, and often used to ask her to stop snoring. Unknowingly we came close to a point when I was leaving my parents place to go to my husband late last year, she cried after my departure and told my mother she may not ever see me again. Unconsciously perhaps, I had forgiven her for all the misdoings and this I realised when she passed away. She was to come to my place this march and was all excited for it. Me and my husband bought books she would love to read, blanket pillow all for her when she would come here. And when I got the news of her untimely death I am yet to recover from it. I’m suffering the most right now, can’t look at those books, hid them in the closet, and every time asking her couldn’t she wait to come her and die at my place. Couldn’t she. As. Write I’m still crying. Was she just waiting for my forgiveness. Two hrs back as she was in the nursing battle for life I was concerned but devoid of any feeling. Now I feel this sadness inside me, I miss her. I’m missing her badly, she was 86. I went to her funeral performed all the rites and rituals but couldn’t even bear to look at her picture. This past one year changed everything. It’s hard for me to believe that she’s gone as she always used to come back from the emergency. This time she didn’t have to go to the hospital. I didn’t see her during her lastntime, reached much late. I can’t even imagine her dead body but just remember her smiling face, sometime hear her voice in my mind. I’m suffering badly now almost into depression. I was notnready for her sudden death. Can’t ven look at the blanket, pillows and books I had got for her.

  21. angie says:

    in 97, 2 of my sisters daughters was killed in an auto accident.a week or so after i had a dream of them.the first part of the dream i was talking to the oldest girl Brandi, and i was asking her how heaven was ,and she said she couldnt explain it to me but 1 day i would find out. then it was like a wall had spun around and i was in another room and i was crying and talking to the youngest girl Anita,and she held out her hands and had a ball of light,it was a ball of floating pastel colors.she said to take this it will help you get over us.about a month or so later i found out i was preagnant

  22. Sue says:

    My dad passed away 3 1/2 years ago from cancer. Every 6 months or so I have very real, vivid dreams. In my dreams I know he’s passed, we have short but deep conversations. I know he’s in a better place, it brings me a sense of happiness to know that this might be a visitation. He gives me messages to give to my mom. The only thing I wonder about is the fact that while he was on his death bed, I whispered in his ear that if there was any way he could communicate with me from the “other side” to please do so, and that I wouldn’t be scared. Maybe I should’ve never said that to him? I just hope that me saying that to him isn’t keeping him from getting to a place he’s supposed to be?

  23. Sherrie says:

    My Dad passed away on Jan 18th. Last November during a visit, I created a CD of his favorite songs. During the past month as he became increasingly ill, my sisters and I would play the songs for him as he lay bedridden. We told him after he passed that if he wanted to “contact” us, he should play one of the songs on the radio for us to hear. Two days after my Father’s death my sister (who lives on the west coast) texted me that one of the songs from the cd (Dean Martin’s “Everybody Loves Somebody Sometime”) played from her husband’s ipod. She had not even transferred the songs to his ipod! (she had downloaded the songs to her iPAD and apparently that can get shared thru a cloud from Itunes). Anyway, I texted her that I was so happy she received a “sign” and hoped I would get one too some day. Two seconds after I hit send the song “Lyin Eyes” by the Eagles came on the radio (which was his favorite song from my generation) and on the CD I had created. I burst into tears because I knew he was giving me a sign as well. It’s remarkable that we had not only asked him to communicate with us in this manner, but that he did so almost similtanously with my sister and I (living on opposite sides of the country). It gave us such a sense of peace to know that he is ok. I wish we could know more about his new journey.

  24. Jade says:

    a few years before i was born my mother was so very unfortunate to have her fiance was killed by a workplace accident working as an electrian and before that day they were talking about how if he died suddenly no one would show up to his funeral.. a lot of people did.. the worst part about it was my sister’s first day of middle school and my mum couldn’t attend.. on christmas day one of my mum’s family friends gave her a note and said to my mum not to read it until after christmas but knowing my mum she got very anxious and opened the letter and it was from her fiance she couldn’t understand the letter but that night she fell asleep and her fiance popped up and they were on a plane and my mum asked where are we and he said we only have a little while but don’t worry your safe with me and he then went into a time warp to the first time they met and they got married he said i may be here but i always will wait and then my mum woke up very scared but relieved that he still loved her
    a few years later my mum’s mum was slowly dying and they went to the rsl ad suddenly when the woman tried to talk the power would go out just how he got killed being an electria and the show could not proceed.
    although i didn’t meet him i would be in so much pain my father doesn’t live with me and he never has so i classify my mother’s fiance as my dad

  25. Linda G. says:


    I never believed in any of it either, and I am skeptical about a lot of what is written as I feel people do make up some of it for attention. But I will tell you the experiences I had with the light after my cat passed has changed my life (read above Nov 11th). I can only tell you that my frame of mind at the time was definitely very sad and with horrible grief, as it was so raw, that maybe that had something to do with my getting a response. The other thing I believe is that spirits are not going to hit you over the head with a response. They may be on a plane different than ours, and are of energy, so may contact us the only way they can ie) by working through electrical, sound or heat energy, etc. Perhaps they have tried to contact you and you did not recognize the signe. Harry Houdini’s wife said she and Harry had a deal that he would contact her after he died, in a certain way . . . she said that he never did. Good luck to you. I am sure others will offer you some advice.

  26. dawn says:

    Hi all! my dad died on the 30th dec 2011 I miss him so much my heart is truley broken…. i dream about him every nite! i just can’t except that he has gone… the day after he died to huge flowers blossomed from a tree that doesent flower until may……..a magnificent rainbow and a butterfly (in january) I have heard that these are the most common signs from our deaceased love ones.. I hope so as it has given me some comfort I feel him with me…xx

  27. Jen Trow says:

    My mother died in 99 of a drug overdose, im 18 now so its been a while. Ive had dreams where she has telepathically asked me to jump off a cliff with her, i say no and she jumps, and im left alone. ive felt that this is how ive been, standing alone after she has jumped. Before she died, as she drove away, she waved to us casually as if she knew….. When she was cremated, and her ashes were buried, a sign appeared. My grandmother said that above where her ashes were appeared fuschia flowers that had never appeared before. She is my soul mate, the other half of me and i would do anything for a sign. Ive missed her everyday fore the past 12 years. what a thing for a kid to deal with. </3 we have more wisdom and appreciation.
    I miss you, please come back to me.

  28. Robyn says:

    My husband passed away suddenly on Nov 2 2011. My life and my childrens lives changed forever that day. We all miss him so much and ask why he had to leave us so sudden and so early. The morning after his funeral I was sitting on my bed with my daughter and best friend, and my shower started to trickle, we all looked in amazement and I said that he had come back for his morning shower. For some weeks after that shower would come on at all times of the day and night. Would that have been him? It has now stopped. Does this mean he has moved on and is at peace. I also have seen lots of feathers around since his passing, is this a sign or am I just hoping? Life is so cruel at times but I just wish I new that he was happy.

  29. Linda G. says:


    As George Carlin once said, “I stopped believing in religion when I reached the age of . . . reason!”

  30. Ahnee says:

    My deceased father made his presence known one afternoon when we suddenly smelled the ointment he used to apply to keep the misquitoes away. Strangely though, only me and my mom were able to smell it. My sister was also in the room but she could not smell it.
    Another time was a moth (gold in color) flew in to the room my mom and I were in. My mom felt it was my dad visiting us again. Then the moth flew over to me and just sat on my knee for a little bit before flying over to where my mom was.
    I know Dad is in a fantastic place now and we will all meet him when we leave our physical bodies.

  31. Janet says:

    I can distinguish a “dream” from a “visitation” in only one way, and it’s very clear-cut: the visitation will stay with me for years and be as clear to me today as it was even 20 years ago or more. For example, in the ’90s, I dreamed of my two “old-maid aunts” who lived together all their lives and died three months apart in the late ’70s. I approached their home as I usually did, sat where I usually sat, and asked them, “What is death like?” to which they both answered (without a sound, and without moving their lips, as another poster mentioned) “It’s like nothing,” in the sense that, “It’s no big deal; it’s fine, it’s like anything else,” etc. And that really reassured me. They simply wanted to have a brief visit, and then I left, and we all felt “normal.” I’ve had many visitations like that from other relatives, which I can distinguish from a dream.

    Also, I’ve also always wondered, since I”m the last of my family line and never knew many of my aunts, or any of my grandparents, etc., whether they can come through in a reading — I’m “aware” of them, as I’ve read their letters and done the geneaology and have so many photos of all these ancestors whom I never met — so, my question is, can our ancestors come through, even if we never knew each other on this plane? I have always felt an extremely strong pull toward Scotland, where my grandfather was born and lived before he emigrated to the U.S., and I’ve gone over there several times. I just wonder if they “know us” as I “know them” through their letters and photos?

  32. astrid says:

    hi there

    my boyfriend committed suicide on dec 19th…
    what happens to a suicide..where does there soul go…will they be ok..

  33. Angel Bee says:

    Hi everyone. I am 20 years old and I lost my sister on June 25th 2004 so that would put me at the age of 12 going on 13 bc my birthday was the day after her death date. She got jumped by a group of girls and it caused her to have a asthma attack when she feel to the ground at the time she was only sixteen. A year later after her death I start having dreams of her and she would be in them. Sometimes I would ask her or tell her “I thought you were dead why are you here?” and she would say naw girl and brushed it off. Another time she was in my dream I asked her what actually happened the day of her death and all she said was she wasn’t mad at anyone who was with her the time of her death. It was like so real it didn’t feel like no dream. I really miss her though.

  34. harry says:

    astrid, just like to say that even if your partner commited suicide he will still end up going to the same place as everyone else, forget the religious dogma about heaven and hell and all that, there is no hell and he certainly isn,t going there, when he gets to the astral plane he may have to go through a time of readjustment as to why he did what he did and to come to terms with things before he prepares for the next stage in his progression but thats it, NO punnishment ok, he is in a better place now and you will eventually meet up again, remember there is no such thing as time on the other side so he will have no trouuble in waiting to see you, however you are only young and it may seem a long time for you, your other question if we come back ?, yes nearly everyone comes back because earth with all its faults and problems is a training ground where we have to keep coming back to learn lessons, however be safe in the knowledge that you will be together again, some readers on this site may not be ready for the truth yet due to phony religious beliefes or one thing and another but you are still young and can may be look at things in a more unpredjudiced manner, hope this helps you to come to terms with the loss, also remember that your partner is still with you on occassions watching you in spirit form, talk to him daily as if he is with you and tell him that you still love him and he will here you,

  35. Robert Greene says:

    I’ve had several dreams at various turning points in my life. After her death, my mother appeared to me and I felt a sense of both her sadness and life-direction. She was pointing the way to the future. Before her death we had a family squabble. I was partially disowned. Her presence in my dream state assured me of her continued love. I have forgiven her for all. Two years ago, I had another dream of her. In this dream she was wrapped in a shroud and near her tomb. She pointed at another tomb. I did not know quite what to make of this. In fact it frightened me. A month or so after her death anniversary, I visited her grave and said the Rosary. It was on that occasion that I noticed her best friend had been buried next to her. It was a sign . Blessings, I no longer fear death.

  36. anon says:

    my dad died 10 years ago of cancer, my friend died last month from a horrible accident, they are the closest people that has ever died to me.. and now, every few nights, i see them:( by my window, in my room! pale,bruised,skinny,ill staring at me, its horrible, i used to speak and see my dad when i was younger, in a positive way, he was well and happy, i used to speak to him, when he died, i had never said anything in my whole life and no one knew he was dead, i opend my curtains and said ‘mum, dads crying in the sky’.. is it a sign? my mate recently came to me in a dream on his funeral, in his clothes he was buried in, and the flowers i put down for him, he apolojized for everything,said he was going to look out for me, but it was asif he was answering to my thoughts? because i never said some of the stuff he mensioned out loud, but i had cryed and cryed over them, just recently i keep seeing them both in my room, its so scary, they stare at me..its lke they are acthually there.. is it my mind playing tricks? is there such thing as gosts and stuff? someone please help me im only 14, i havent been myself since it has started:/ help:(

  37. THOMAS says:

    ok here we go, i had a dream 4 year ago at 4am i no the time because i woke up straigt after, as i was sleeping my granfather walked into my dream as clear as day, we were at a place looking through my aunts window (his daughter) he was wanting me to look my mind traveled through the door to see her and her brother , my uncle, my grandfathers son, they were crying hugging each other, my mind came back outside to my grandfather he was standing in the best way i remember him, he said to me you know what i am asking you to do i said yes, he was wanting me to look after his son my uncle, as soon as i realised this i looked at him and realised he had died, i watched him give me a quick goodbye and he disapeared like a star, i woke up looked at the clock and went owe my god that was strange it was 4am, i went back to sleep the next morning i got a call that my grandfather had died last night 4am, i cant explain this, never dreamed of him before and we didnt expect him to die, since then iv had visions i see people and then realise its not them, then find out later that the person i thought it was was dead, i need help as im wanting to channel this to good use. Thank you

  38. Ally says:

    It’s nice to have these places to share your thoughts. I recently lost my 14 year old son, on January 14. He was walking home from a friends, and was struck by a transport.
    Exactly a week later, to the day, a very strange occurrence. with no one around, my dog somehow got out of the house, and was also struck by a transport. (Yes, we live on the highway). The dog never, ever went near the road.
    An Ojibway friend told me that in her father’s culture, they say when a child is taken, they first go on a journey of some sort, before coming to their final place. In this culture, the child comes back to retrieve their animal companion from life, as the animal helps guide them on their journey.
    So, a part of us are choosing to believe that somehow, some way, my son let the dog out, and coaxed her to the highway, telling her to be with him.
    Now, the radio in the living room keeps turning on, by itself, at random times. Normally when I am thinking or talking about how quiet it is in the house without child or dog, and how much I miss them.
    I’m sure in time, the pain will ease, but each day seems to get worse right now, instead of better. The radio helps soothe me, but I wish I knew more. Sadly, I live in a very remote part of Canada, and the nearest medium/psychic/etc. is hours away.

  39. Jennifer Tyler says:

    In April 2010 my father passed away unexpectably on Good Friday. He was only 58 so this was very difficult for my family. I, being his oldest child, and alson the one who lived 3 hours away, took it quite hard and regret not seeing him prior to his death. About two months after he died I became pregnant, even though my husband had a vasectomy and I took the morning after pill to insure that I could not conceive. However, it still happened and 9 months later my beautiful baby girl was born. The strange thing is that this little girl (who is a year old now) is so much like my dad. He loved cars, food, and the beach. She loves cars and car rides, as well as keys (and not the toy keys). She loves water and most of all she eats enaything you give her. My other children never ate as well as she does. She even eats more than my 6 year old and most of what she eats is food only adults would eat. It just amazes me how similar she is to my dad and how much her personality matches his. I am convinced she is a gift from him and was sent to me to help me deal with the grief I was feeling.

  40. emma says:

    Hi my little sister Alexis passed away on the 7/01/2012 (she was 19) from a Tragic Hot Air Baloon Accident. She was shouted the trip by her bf Chrisjan. She was very religious and a real giver…always looking out for others….and I miss her so much. We were very close and lived together. My mum said a black lab came running up to her when we visited the site of the accident every body there (the cops and forensic people) thaught it must be a sign as it only ran to my mum from quite a distance. Also the day after there were some helium balloons hovering in one spot for quite some time,I would like to communicate with my sister like say a proper goodbye, as I go in to her room and see every thing how she left it and it feels like shes only away on a holiday, and will be back. If shes Christian would she find it annoying if I try contact her? And also whats a good way? And would she already passed as my bf had a dream that she and chrisjaan left holding hands after we visited the site…. Love and light emma.

  41. harry says:

    emma, your sister will no doubt be going through a kind of debriefing right now for her belief in fictitious faith and to adjust to things as they really are but before that happened she would be around for a while watching what went on with her family and all that, the ones that pass over know how much we love them and there is no worry that she doesn,t know that, however after her period of adjustment she will be able to view what is going on with her loved ones, whether she will try and leave messages for any of you is anyones guess, but like i said she would have been near by shortly after she passed but would have to go for a kind of readjustment, how long this will take depends on how her beliefs were ingrained, however this period will come to an end and she will be free to continue with the next stage of her enlightenment, rest assured she knows of your love for her, and whats more she will visit you on a number of occassions no doubt, its just that we don,t know they are there, some people who are sensitive enough and can adjust there vibratory level can sense spirits abroad, however if she wants you to know she is ok she will try and send you a message, just keep an open mind, she is in a better place now and no doubt would not want you to worry,keep her momory a happy thing and she will be happy as well,

  42. harry says:

    linda g, nice to hear that someone else has managed to see through the oldest trick in the world, i of course mean religion, i often despair that a lot of people fall for the rhetoric, of course this is why the brain wash starts early in a lot of so called faiths, catch them while young and in there formative years and impressionable, if you want any further vocal on the subject feel free, harry

  43. Andrea says:

    Hello – my father passed away on January 23rd 2012. He was 75 (3 days short of his 76th birthday on Jan 26). He had lung cancer and after 5 months of being sick he finally passed away peacefully with all the family around him. I keep asking him to come to me in my dreams, but so far nothing. My sister bumped into a friend who has he ability to see the “others”. She said that my father was with my sister and that he would be with her for many years. She told her a few other things that no one would have known. I only hope that at sometime he will come and visit me. Just knowing he is still with us (in spirit) is very comforting.

  44. harry says:

    jenifer tyler, no doubt your little treasure is a part of what has happened to your father, however let me say that no one is an expert in these matters because of the vast ammount of knowledge one would have to acrue on the subject of the so called paranormal, if indeed we were allowed all knowledge which we aren,t, i fear, however let me try to explain somewhat, we do come back to this earthly plane time after time (re incarnation) but it usually takes any number of years before the time is right for our return (short answer} however it is not unknown in certain circustances that we can on very rare occasions come back if we choose much sooner than that, for any number of reasons (short answer} what i am saying is that this little treasured bundle of yours may well be your fathers spirit returned, however a lot of people could not get their head around that so if you also are like that then don,t read anymore, there is obviouly a strong link in your case between your daughter and your father and i think its a point you should watch for over the years, if she is as good as gold and never gives you any trouble i think we could probably assume that what i suggest is probably so, in fact i often wonder if i am my own grandfather returned for my mothers sake, she tried years to conceive and only after her father died she did, so they had me later in life, and guess what, when the old midwife delivered me she said to my mother that this ones been here before, reffering to me, so people will believe what they want to believe or what they have been conditioned to believe but i think that in time you will probably agree with me and consider the possible fact that your daughter may well be you know who, best of everything to you and be thankfull,

  45. harry says:

    janet, of course what you ask is possible, just because that we have never met relations from this plane doesn,t mean that there is no spiritual connection, in fact don,t qoute me on this and take it as so, but one of them may have even been assigned as one of your guides, these are spirits that help during life at certain times, one never knows but stranger things have no doubt happened, may be you would consider trying one of those family tree optians that are available, there are free ones out there i have heard, if you are interested in what relations are – were – or did, hope this was of some help,

  46. harry says:

    jen trow, your mother is happy believe me, may be she as tried to send you signs and you have just missed them, people talk of feathers, well its possible i have heard many times of them being left in places that were not usual, electrical appliances acting strange, think back over the period, she no doubt knows that you love her very much because when they are on the other side there is no hiding ones feelings from them, i advise as usual to talk to her daily as if she is still there and she will hear you, remember her as she was at her best and that is exactly as she is now, on the astral there is no time as we know it so when its your turn to go over she will be waiting to guide you no doubt,

  47. Kersi says:

    Dear Harry

    I lost my dear son in the month of December 2011 in a freak road accident – my son was only 11 years then. Our lives are in total darkness and without any purpose. Tears don’t stop when we see his pictures on the wall.

    I have never seen him in my dreams but I still get this feeling that my son wants to talk to me or has something to tell me. When at work I often get into a state where I can hear people talking around me but I am not in a position to communicate. I get a jerk and then just happen to come out of this situation – during that phase I just get lost in some thoughts or place which I have not been or don’t remember seing. Please help me understand how can I get to speak with my child. My heart bleeds and I cannot think of spending another moment without my child

  48. Victoria says:

    So sad to read all these stories, I hope we are all remaining strong. My Dad died at about 11.30pm on December 3rd 2011. I received a phone call from his new wife of 3 weeks that Dad had had a heart attack at 12.20am. I was on my way home from the pub as I am only 20, and said I would come round straight away. On arrival there were 2 ambulances out the front. I parked my car and ran up to 3 ambo officers outside. I couldnt see Dad in the ambulance so assumed he must ok if they werent attending to him. I asked them where Dad was and they told me he was upstairs in his bedroom. I felt relief. I then asked, ok so how is he? They sorry mam he is deceased. At that point I utterly couldnt believe it! I was not expecting that what so ever considering he was only 51, was fit and healthy, no health problems at all! I broke down instantly on the concrete. After a bit I went inside and about 20 friends of his wifes were all lined up the stairs as I stumbled up..It was becoming way too true. At the top of the stairs his wife came out of the bedroom and said, my darling victoria its not true..its not true..his feet are still warm..come feel them. I walked into Dads bedroom and took one look at Dad and knew he was gone. Poor Jenny (his wife) was continuing to disagree, saying that they had gone out to dinner that night as usual, came home watched tv as usual, went to bed about 9.30pm then she heard Dad snoring as usual. Dad rolled over and said he had a sore back and began sweating heaps..and that was it. I am very upset that Dad is gone, I have only got too know him properly over the last 2yrs as my parents divorced when I was young, I never got to say goodbye or even tell him I loved him as we were still developing our relationship. I was so angry with him on New Years night I was screaming and crying in my car about how he could do this too me etc, then a dog out of nowhere ran and jumped on my lap while I was still in the car. No one knew where this dog came from, but it came in the house full of strangers and wouldnt stop following me around. We named him Sam as Dad used to have several dogs called Sam.Hours passed and Sam was still hanging out with us. We decided to lock him out so he would go home, but he kept appearing everytime!! We decided to go to the beach for a new years swim and sam jumped in the car with us and came along! Back at home he continued to keep getting in the house when nothing was left open, he whined at the doors from outside and cryed. We eventually went to sleep and in the morning he was gone, and we have never seen Sam since. Heres a gorgus photo from the night…
    Im not a dog type of I really felt it was Dad with me there that night. Nothing has happened since and the rest of my family have all had dreams about him except me.. I really want to dream about him so I can see and hear his voice again! I am keen to go see a physic so I can try to connect with him again. I just miss him so much! Can anybody help? I live in Aucklnd NZ. All the best to everyone! LOVE YOU FOREVER & ALWAYS DADDY! XX

  49. Vikki says:

    On 10 Jan 2012 my partner of 14 years passed away from Mesothelioma..12 months to the day of his 1st chemo..he always said he would on last the 13 months he had been “given”
    Up until the final weeks before his passing we had been “estranged” for 5 months due to his selfish eldest son, who never had much to do with his father, made it too hard for us to stay all has to do with money of course…my partner asked the youngest son to do the caring and asked him to help him see me without the eldest’s knowledge (in the end his young brother told the brother, it was what his father wants, it’s not about him, and that he wanted to spend time with me)
    My partner asked for me on the Mon morning…the youngest son called and asked me to come to the hospital as his dad was lingering as if he needed to see someone and could I come and tell him it is OK to go…(I had told him on 2 other occasions)…it happened that he wanted to see me one last time..we shared 30 loving minutes together with lots of kisses and that time he told me he didn’t want me to see him die and I wasn’t to be there…I made a vow to him that I wouldn’t be…he told me he would be going soon.
    That night I slept restlessly…and finally went to sleep at 3 a.m…I woke at 7 a.m…ten minutes later the phone was the aunt ringing to see if I was ok as she had just been told he had passed away at 2.30 a.m on the Tues…she was surprised I had not been told, however the youngest son said he would come not call …so I got dressed…at 7.20 I felt a finger run down my back..I asked him if it was him and he did it again…then the son arrived to tell me. (I asked my partner if he was able to to give me a sign..and that is what he used to do)
    My partner did not hang around much that day..but on the Wednesday he was here most the day…I could feel warmth, contentment, peace and the purest love i have ever daughter came to visit me and felt it too…she said she didnt want to leave…the candle flame would go crazy and there were no breezes..he came and went a bit on the Thursday (maybe he left when he was being viewed?)
    Friday 13 Jan at 10.30 a.m was his funeral..he always said he wouldn’t be there…however just before the service started I felt his presence..I said in my mind “You told me you wouldn’t be here” then I heard him say “Well I am” Maybe it was because he knew what was coming…the eldest son’s wife took the opportunity in her part of the Eulogy to make comment to trivialise his love for me by referring to his late wife as his ONE TRUE LOVE…which did not escape notice of others.

    After everyone had left and I was alone. At 6pm I had a call from my ex sister in law whom I hadn’t spoken with for 5 years..about the time she decided to block the “gift” she always had…he had forced her out of partner had never met her and knew nothing of our relationship…she said he was very strong and he was angry about something a female relative said at the funeral, he had seen it written in a book… he also told her he now knows of “the plan” and he wasn’t going to let it happen and he had to hang around to protect me from someone he has unfinished business with, someone he couldn’t deal with in life.

    I have had 2 lucid dreams of him…one where his daughter in law above tried to say something to me and I was crying I felt his arms around me even when I was half awake…the next one I dreamed he still had the oxygen prongs and tubes on his face, however they were fading..he was smoking (he was an ex smoker)I asked him why and he said “Coz I can!” When I mentioned this to my eldest daughter she told me that night she had put a unlit smoke down..her husband saw her do it..she turned to pick it up and it was gone..she got another and did the same thing..and it was gone..both of them looked everywhere and couldn’t find them…she is wondering if my partner took them as it was something he used to do…he hasn’t moved things on me, but he did guide me to where the tape measure was….my sister and he adult children and my other daughter have had incidences with him too.

  50. Jason says:

    Interesting read, this site was. I have some dream experiences to tell about. My father took his own life in July 2011, just 7 months ago, and since then I’ve had about 3 vivid experiences where I can recall most of the encounter with him. And even though the others aren’t vivid enough to retell, I do know that he was there (i have them almost every night)

    The first time was a little weird. We was on a boat. A fancy boat, though the only boat we’ve ever “had” was an old pontoon boat my great uncle let my dad use for a few years. Anyways, he just appeared out of thin air and we talked about something and then I asked why he was there. He replied he was looking for my brother and I to tell us something. And then I woke up.

    The 2nd encounter was after our stepmother, who had been married to dad for a year or so, was found to have been selling everything of dad’s to pay for her moving away to Nebraska, She won’t let me or my brother on the property without risking being arrested. We was talking to each other about taking her to court to fight for dad’s property. In the dream, I was walking through their yard and approaching my stepmother when I was stopped by dad. He told me in a stern voice that he would “fight for her”. I think he wanted her to have everything first, and then give us what she thought we should have, but dad bless his soul didnt know what kind of woman she really is…

    and the third encounter was last night. I was in a weird house with my wife and I noticed someone peeking through the window at me. Scared, I got the dog my dad had for years until the dog had died about 3 months before dad died, and went outside. When I got outside I realized I had actually walked out the back door of dad’s barn and saw his truck sitting out there. I saw my cousin and her husband looking in the window of dad’s truck and then they looked at me and said they were looking for him. I told them that he was gone. Then i walked through the yard and met my aunt and her daughter holding red flowers. Then I noticed I was in the barn standing on the exact spot of where my dad died and I looked around and there was no barn and I saw my dad wandering around the property aimlessly like he was lost. then I woke up.

    I keep having dreams like this, some I think may be actual communication, and some may just be my thoughts playing with me since I do feel partially responsible. 6 days before dad took his life, I had surgery and I told dad. What I didn’t know was that he had a bad ordeal with a surgery as a kid, and that recently he had stopped taking his depression meds because he thought he was better. (we never knew he had depression)

  51. harry says:

    kersi, the problem is if we are not sensitive enough we cannot sense anything unless they are able to leave us something more physical like objects being moved or some form of activity regarding eletromechanical interference, but rest assured you can talk to him anytime and he will hear you, its only been such a short time since he passed and he probably is still very local, just talk to him as if he is visible to you, he will always be your son and when we pass over we see all our loved ones again, but try and be happy for him this is what he wants now, he is back in his spirit form where we all really belong, this place where we are now is just a place where we have to come to learn things, be happy he wants that now, how do you think he feels knowing you are hurting, its all very raw at the moment just hang on in there and you will come to realise, be calm, harry

  52. Kimberly says:

    My mother passed away 3 years ago. While she was sick, strange things began to happen. I had always had feelings and premonitions that I couldn’t explain but they seemed to increase at that time. For instance, when my grandmother passed I experienced her presence in her room at my aunts house. When my mother began to get sick, I was in my house all alone walking to my pantry when out of nowhere something hit me in the back and hit the floor. This was in December and to look behind me and see Valentines Day heart candy on the floor concerned me I guess you ould say. One said, “Yes dear” and the other said, “Call me”. So I immediately start calling my sisters-no, everything was okay. So, I called my mom and she wasn’t feeling well and thinking about going to the hospital. This was sort of the beginning of her ending. So that night I’m at a restaurant, I sat my tray down at my table and it was like a warm hand took me by the hand. I nearly dropped my tray. Several other instances of me feeling them losing her heart beat one night while I was sleeping, seeing her in my dreams attempting to cross over but walking back out of “the light” towards me instead, just on and on with the strangest things that I saw. So the night before she died, I dreamed that mom had decided to take whoever’s hand it was that was reaching for her, she looked back at me and walked into the light. As soon as I saw that, in my dream, the phone rang. It was the nursing home and they think she doesn’t have long. Long story short, the next day while we were all sitting with her, I felt like something grabbed me from the inside and I looked up and I just knew she was going. I jumped up and ran to her, climbed in the bed and held her until she passed. That night, I had just gotten into bed, laid my head down and gotten comfortable to sleep and all of a sudden I heard my mother as if she was an inch from my ear whisper my name—Kimberly——and I swear I could feel her breath. That experience almost assured me that I wasn’t crazy because I was perfectly awake when it happened. I don’t know, something about that made me know she was with me and she was okay.

  53. Aimee says:

    I’m Aimee. My father passed away suddenly on July 3rd, 2011. He had always been a heavy drinker and smoked his whole life (although quit about 10 yrs ago) .. he took many meds and we all feel like he overdosed. (He was 66 yrs old)
    I am writing because my Dad and I have always been so similar. We had an awesome bond because we are SO much alike. We look exactly alike and just understood each other. His death was the most horrible thing I have ever gone through in my 39 yrs on this planet.
    I am writing to tell everyone to please keep an open mind. He visits me in my dreams. Almost… 3-4 times a month. Usually when I’m having a hard time and missing him.
    He was extremely wealthy and we’ve had some issues with the will and his business since he passed and he always guides me .. whether its comforting me when I’m angry, hugging me when I’m sad or just being there when I’m frustrated.
    My parents were married 30 yrs and got divorced because of his alcoholism. He remarried a hair dresser gold digger and she has all but gotten everything. (He was very generous to me and my brother … but her and her grown daughter got the bulk of his 15 million dollars)
    I struggle with this because I’m left with his company issues and mainly… really his problems .. Like I said before, I did benefit financially but she (the widow) is effin manipulating and I can’t bear to look at her.

    My father comes to me in my dreams to re assure me that he loves me and that everythings going to be ok. I’ve found it very comforting. I really miss him and his laugh. He always made me feel special and made me smile.

    a few weeks ago he came to me in my dream and said “CAN IT AIMEE!” I’m tired of all the bickering. I’m gone and just accept things how they are.

    Another time he came to me (After me having LONG crying spells) and he was crying in my dream and said that he never realized how much I loved him.

    I love this website. The stories are very sad but keeping an open mind, whether it be real or our own way of dealing with grief and pain, makes this connecting very comforting. Good luck to everyone going through the same thing as me!

  54. Kathryn says:


    I have been very affected by deceased people visiting me in dreams. No one i knew had ever died until I was 18, the first being my grandmother who died of ovarian cancer. The night before her funeral I had a dream about her walking through her house with a suitcase saying she was leaving. She was happy, she look healthy The dream was so cliche, but so unbelievably real I did not tell anyone about it because I was afraid my mom and other family members would find it offensive and think I was making it up. Then, about nine months later I found out a girl i worked with very briefly died of a drug overdose at the age of 26. I barely knew this person, but I knew her brother very well in high school. Her death continues to haunt me some three years later. She, too, visited me in a dream. We were racing to go somewhere and she kept telling me to hurry and that she “is never late” and “i can’t be late.” I have never been able to get over this dream and I think about this girl daily, although I only vaguely knew her for a short time well before her death. I honestly feel that she wants something from me or is trying to connect with me but I don’t know why. I have lost touch with her family and I do not feel right about talking about her with them. I have not told anyone about how she remains on my mind after all this time. Then, one year after she died both of my great grandparents, whom I loved very much, died six months apart from each other. After they were both deceased I had an incredibly surreal dream about the two of them. However, they were not old, but very young as they looked in the 1940s. They were both in bathing suits running on the beach trying to take refuge from huge waves crashing onto the shore. I just wish someone could tell me why I would be visited because although I loved both my grandmother and great grandparents we were unfortunately not very close or connected in life and I was one of 11 great grandchildren and one of 5 grandchildren. I am the first born in both instances so perhaps I’m somehow supposed to be a leader? I haven’t talked to anyone about this. However, the 26 year old girl I barely knew continues to weigh on me the heaviest. I do not know why I can’t let her death go, after all I only met her in passing. I know this comment was long, but I really hope someone reads this and can help me decipher my thoughts/dreams. I have never told anyone about how these dreams have affected me so greatly. I’m so confused.

  55. Kathryn says:


    I briefly worked with a young woman in high school ( I am now 22). She was a bit older than me and I never became too acquainted with her. However, at the time I was close friends with her brother who is my age. This girl passed away of a drug overdose at age 26 three years ago. When I heard the news I thought “this is sad, but I barely knew her.” Almost three years after her death I cannot stop thinking about her. I had a dream with her in it a couple of years ago. She grabbed my hand and was pulling me and kept saying “I’m never late.” “we can’t be late.” It was very surreal, but what I found odd was that she was dressed in very nice clothing, and one thing I did observe about her when she was alive was that she always dressed so casual, although she was very pretty in her own way. I don’t understand why she was uncharacteristically dressed in the dream. Furthermore, I do not understand why a person I barely knew continues to haunt my thoughts. I think about her on a daily basis, but at the same time I have so few memories of her. She has not visited me in a dream since, but I honestly feel like she is trying to connect with me in some way still. I am normally very skeptical, but it is becoming difficult to ignore her. I have lost touch with her brother and do not feel comfortable contacting anyone about this because I feel they would think I was mocking them in some way because they actually have memories with her and are certainly still hurting. I feel so confused and I wish someone could help me decipher this. I only want the best for the family she left behind and her spirit in the afterlife, but I just don’t understand why I can’t stop thinking about a person I knew for such a short time so long ago. If anyone has any insight please let me know.

  56. spirit says:

    In the Talmudic Judaism there had been a secret method of communicating with the dead as hinted by Dr. Polyakov in an article at his website, esp. here:

  57. Leah says:

    Hello. I lost my great grandmother 3 years ago. She was 92 and died in her sleep. She was in the hospital and we had just went home for rest because we thought she was doing better, then we get a call to hurry back because she didn’t long, so we hurried back. When we go there, she was already gone, she was flatlined. When we got into the room to kiss her and tell her our last goodbyes, her heart monitor started beeping a for a few seconds, then flatlined again and didn’t come back. We thought that she may have been telling us that it is ok and that she was tere when we were saying goodbye and that she was saying goodbye. A few hours before she passed, my grandmother (her daughter) talked to her, although she was not responding anymore, told her that it was ok if she went to be with papa in Heaven and be with Jesus. We wanted her to know that we were sad and would miss her, but it was ok for her to go when she was ready. After that, my grandmother asked her to show her any sign that she was happy and ok. We all knew she was in Heaven because she was such a lady of Christ and I don’t remember her doing any wrongs. Well, like a month later, my grandmother told me that she had a dream that we were reliving the night my Mamaw died. We were in the hospital saying our last goodbyes and her heart rate came on again, just like it really happened, but in the dream, we all looked up and there was Mamaws spirit with an angel above her body and that mamaw was trying to get back into her body. Then my Mamaw’s spirit said “I have to get back into my body, they are sad and need me, I can’t leave them” and the angel said to her “you can’t go back, it is your time to come with me” then they went up into the sky into Heaven.

    I think that was Mamaw telling us the reason her heart monitor came back on while we came in to kiss her and then also that she was in Heaven very happy.

    What do you all think?

    Also, I had a dream last night the Mamaw was in my house back from Heaven on the weekends to spend the night, then she would go back to heaven. I know that part was a dream, then there was a part where I just went up and hugged her and we hugged for a while. Then when that was all done, I got a phone call from her and we just talked about how we were and what Heaven was like and I told her I missed her and things like that. I have heard when they hug you and have a phone conversation while you are asleep, they are visiting you. What do you all think about that? Was my mamaw visiting me and tell me she is happy in Heaven? I know she is very happy in Heaven :)

  58. harry says:

    leah, if you read my other comments you will see that being so called christian and of a religious nature are not the criteria for getting into heaven because heaven doesn,t exist, or at least not as dogma would have us believe, we don,t have to be martyrs or so called christians to get to where we all go anyway, you see when we pass over we go to the astral world where we go through a kind of de briefing where we get rid of earthly pr conceived ideas, especially religion which only clouds the issue on the other side, this physical plane is not our home, we are spirit beings and as such this earth and its material plane is just a place where we come to, to learn and improve, of course your g, gran is happy and i am sure thst she has tried to tell you so, however pre conceived ideas of heaven and hell are totally wrong and are what they teach to scare us, furthermore it is certainly not wicked to want or try to contact our loved ones as they would have us believe, do you know that the early christians taught spirit contact and taught about the after life but the powers that be dropped it from the teachings, probably because they saw it as competition and wanted to rule with fear, i mean if you believe in a god, A LOVING GOD do you think that god would want us to be scared of him, of course not, they cause more harm than good in the church, and that goes for any other orthodoxy as well, anyway chin up my dear we will all be in the same place one day, love harry

  59. Kersi says:

    Thanks Harry for your kind words and the much valued advice. As you rightly mentioned it is all very raw at the moment and I cannot find peace at this stage. I can pretend to be calm and composed but that is not the truth, I love my child – I need to talk with him. Parzan papa loves you …….

  60. annie says:

    hi dot,i too lost my son in a similar way as yours.the most remarkable thing is that,tho i miss him so much,i have the assurance that he is very happy and peaceful now.this i came to know through a medium,whom i dont even know,but is a friend of my friend.the message which she recieved was to inform me that my son was at peace.after that i wastold that i could contact him through auto writing,and i did just that.i would suggest all the people to reads this book embracing the light,by j.d.betty.who have made it so clear in her book abt life after death,thru her experience.this opened up many knowledge abt death,and thats how im so convinced that we are all meeting our lost loved ones ,when our time comes to leave this earth.tke care and i know exactly how you must be feelonin at your loss,i too am going thru that same phase.glad to share this with pls read the book.check the net.

  61. Leah says:

    Everyone has a right to believe in what they want and I am a believer of Christ. I believe and know God sent His Son, Jesus Christ to die on the cross for my sins. I am a Christian and go to church. I do believe in Heaven and Hell and do not believe that we all go to some astral place. I know my mamaws is in Heaven and is very happy with God and family and friends. You can believe in whatever it is you believe, but I will go to Heaven when it is my time, not some astral place. I am not judging, but please do not tell me what to believe in and what not to. Thanks for reading my post and have a great day. God bless.

  62. Roger says:

    In 1991, almost two years to the day after our divorce, my beloved ex-wife took her life for reasons unknown to me. It stunned me because, deep down, I always had hopes of reconciliation.

    In the years since, I’ve always remembered her and have fondly recalled many of the memories of the good times we shared and, yes, some of the bad ones. She had remarried after our divorce and I’ve since remarried but there’s nothing in my current relationship that even remotely compares to the joy and happiness I shared with Arlene.

    Now, on the eve of would have been our 26th wedding anniversary, I’m deluged with memories of her. I simply cannot stop thinking about her. It’s almost to the point where I’m questioning my sanity. In the past, I’d been able to turn on or off my thoughts of her but lately, I can’t. She’s the first thing I think of when I wake up and the last when I go to sleep. I’m having trouble eating or concentrating on work. I spend hours writing about my memories and thoughts of her. I start crying like a baby sometimes when I think of her (like right now).

    Then, within this past week, I’ve had at least four unmistakable ‘signs’ —due to space limitations I won’t describe them–but all were associated with items that held special meanings to both of us. I’ve been praying a lot asking God to please help me understand what was going on. Yet when I came upon these items, it felt so clear and overpowering that I know she had something to do with them and that I just know she’s trying to something to say to me.

    Again, within the last week, I may have found one of her friends who may be able to shed some light on Arlene’s life after we parted ways. I’ve always longed to know what she thought of me in the days since our divorce and, in particular, her last hours on earth. I so want to know if she still had some special feelings for me. On the other hand, I would be crushed if I found that she hated or despised me or didn’t have the special feelings I’ll always have for her. So I’ve held off contacting her friend because I‘m afraid of the answer I might receive. I don’t want to lose her again.

    I’m sorry I’ve rambled on. There’s no one I can turn to with this but putting it out where others with similar experiences can read it may help me decide what to do.

  63. jim says:

    About 20 years ago, I had a dream that me father, who was about 5 years deceased at the time, appeared to me. He
    was walking up our back stairs & appeared to be trying to open the door. He looked “literally” like he came from the
    grave itself!!!!!!!! I woke up screaming. Here’s the
    really scary part. I was & still am married, but, I went
    back to work in the Midwest for economical reasons. I met this young woman & had her over to my apartment on 2 different occasions & we had sex! My wife didn’t & doesn’t
    know about this. I often wondered if my father was angry
    with me for “cheating” on my wife!

  64. harry says:

    leah, i suggest that if you are too caught up in religious dogma to even try to consider that you may be very wrong i suggest you seek solice in religious websites, furthermore i am an old man now and spent nearly all of my life in study of truth, yes you are entitled to believe in anything you wish no matter how odious, but there are none so blind as those who WILL not see, yes i regarded my self as a christian once before i matured and bothered to find out things for my self, if you are really so bothered about christianity studdy for yourself the original teachings of christ, they are nothing like what man depicts them to mean, yes christ did say some very good and right things but they have been twisted and distorted so much that now they bare no resemblance of the truth, come back in fifty years and tell me i am wrong, you have a good and thoughtfull day, harry

  65. Raz says:

    I don’t know why I’m scared to write. My dad passed away on 26th of Dec 2011. It was sudden and we were not prepared for it. I haven’t shown him my love,I was running like crazy through the last years and neglected my family. I was working on getting them both from our country to a safer place and it was to happen by March 2012 but he was gone. I feel so bad and I don’t fee I will ever over come it. I miss him so much and I can’t stop crying. I go to his bed every day and go through his things , I can’t believe he left all these thing he loved. There were some stuff that happened that made us believe that he’s still here but I’m so scared that we are just trying to make ourselves feel better this way, a kind of defensive manner. I hope not..
    On the fourth day, my sister and I were sitting on a sofa in the living room , our mother was so tired she was taking a nap on the other sofa and my 3.5 y niece was sleeping on another sofa. My sister and I were so down and at one point she said I feel dad , i feel he’s with us. I told her he’d be down to see us like that. After few minutes my niece spoke in her dream saying “nothing’s wrong with him, nothing’s wrong with him” my sister and I froze and i jumped asking her , dear whose nothing’s wrong with and she was still sleeping when she said grandfather, we tried to ask her more but she went into deep sleep!
    My sister keeps dreaming of him , my mom the same but I some how lost contact with him and i’m so down for that. abt two weeks after he passed away i felt or wished he was with me in the room and i called him and went near his room and sat there and when i got back to my bed i saw a white hair on my pj, withmyself i thought ok this is a thread , i took it away to realize it was a real white hair cos it has this head of a normal hair, i went to mom, it was not hers , it was thicker and i was shocked, it’s dad’s..

  66. pooja says:

    Today nearly at 5pm i lost my most lovable cat,due to fever..he died of lots of pain while dying blood was ozzing of his ears nose.. it was very painfull death fr him..i really wan to knw whr is he nw, and wats next fr him.. i lov him v.mch..i knw he is sis has burried him.. i jst wish GOD has picked him into his arms… i wish to see him wen i m dead..morovr i also wan to knw whr does our beloved ones go wen they r dead… i love you bitkos..

  67. harry says:

    raz, i know its very hard for you and yours at the moment we have all been there and in some cases still are, i would just like to say that there is no need to feel afraid to write on this site, and i am always here if you really would want to know more on the subject of the after life, however you may have to come to accept certain things that you thought were not possible due to any religious belief or bigotry, and if you feel that you cannnot accept these ideas there is no good in asking, you see there are static laws that depict what happens to us at death and at the point of passing, all this as been going on since man walked the earth and before to a large degree, much longer than any religion or false faith, some people will only believe what they want to believe, as i yet again experienced recently, when some people hear something different than what they hope is the truth they get nasty, because they feel that someone is trying to rock their shallow religious boat, these ideas people have when part of a religious sect are miles appart from what really happens in reality, but raz my friend rest assured that your dad is absolutely fine, he would not want you to worry for him, that is why he as tried to make contact with members of your family, i know you are hurting right now i have been there, in fact i miss loved ones still even though i know they are ok, so raz if you rally are interested leave another message and i will explain things to you, but be prepared to let go of beliefs you may have held, if you cannot do that then never mind and just take my word that your father is perfectly fine, if you do decide to get back to me thats fine, i will answer any questions you may have on the subject, that is something that mere religion could ever do, ok my friend, be calm and take care it will all become obvious to you in time, harry — Dr Reeves

  68. harry says:

    dear roger, stop beating yourself up, you are not going mad but if you carry on like this you will have to see a doctor, rog look, you really answered one of your own questions if you stop to analyse it, you are already convinced that there as been some effort of contact, now do you think that if your ex hated you she would be remotely wasting effort to contact you, she certainly would not, so i think that what ever her old friend would have to tell you you can be assured she is just as fond of you now as ever, in fact she can see things for what they are now, now there are no earthly problems clouding the issue, furthermore we cannot hide our true feelings from them on the other side, they know whether or not we loved them, as for your companion now don,t be too hard on her because everyone is different and it would be totally unfair to expect her to be like your first, i don,t want to be some kind of marriage guidance councillor on this site though i have the right psychoanalytical prowess so to be, however the companion you have now could be just as fulfilling but in different ways, it would be totally wrong of you to expect these two people to be the same, in time you may see what i am getting at, give your present relationship time to evaluate itself and in the mean time show her that you care with the odd gift, nothing too rash mind, because you don,t want her thinking you,ve been a naughty boy,chin up mate, come on here anytime and i will answer anything that you care to ask, but above all stop beating yourself up there is no need, also stop to realise that the aura you emit is being picked up by your current wife, even though consciously at least she isn,t able to know this, this in itself could have an adverse effect on your relationship now, when she senses that you really appreciate her for who and what she is things can only improve, but i must say one thing, the time this will take just depends on if or how much by your current relationship may have deteriorated, may be it hasn,t but if you keep on the way you are it will, because she is going to sense that there is a problem, what you need is a different mind set, you will be fine, ok, and if its makes any of this easier to bare also you can be assured that we all meet up again when we cross over, ok roger, take it easy and don,t forget if you have any questions i will answer anything you wish, just don,t upset the moderator, haha, yours Dr Harry Reeves

  69. Lori says:

    Hello, I definitely believe in Life after Death. Back in February 2006, I had a dream of my deceased grandfather. In the dream, it was a dark tunnel and there was light from beyond. My grandfather never looked at me, but was walking away from me towards the light, waving. He was wearing a white robe and he had a white belt that hung down to his ankles. It looked like a rope around his waist. I woke up crying. The dream seemed so real. My family thought I was crazy when I told them about it. Then, a month later, my 3 year old son died. Was my deceased grandfather trying to let me know ahead of time about my son? I had a dream with my deceased son, but the dream did not make sense. It was only of his face. I could see his face in my dream.

  70. Anton says:

    Does anybody know a honest psychic in the Cleveland (Lake) area? It is so difficult to find a real psychic!

    On the other hand, how do you explain that some renown psychics like Sylvia Browne have been so deadly wrong about everything and they were exposed on TV as cheaters?

  71. Kersi says:

    Harry – is it right to use a Medium to communicate with my son? I would not do anything that could disturb my angel in the slightest. Could you please help

  72. harry says:

    kersi, there are several factors to consider, is your son still earthbound ? may be, but children are more or less not effected as long as they don,t come from a family who have not brainwashed the child with superfluous religious beliefes, i am sure you havn,t done that, you see there are reasons i say this, because anyone who passes will find when they leave the earthly plane that things are not anything like orthodoxy would have us believe, therefore it usually takes a while before they can take it all in so to speak because its not what they expected, don,t worry its much better than they teach down at the local church/ mosque/ synagogue or whatever, much better, however spirits can get landlocked for a time while they cling to old earthly beliefs, or sometimes in the case of unexpected sudden death, you may see what i am getting at now, he may still be very local still, your son may have moved over just fine or he may still be getting used to the idea of not being material anymore, which would mean he is closer by still than otherwise might be, he may also have traveled over already but instead be paying you visits to see how you are but you just cannot see him, however you can be assured that your little precious is fine and you really must try to get your head around that, i could say things about the passing and the afterlife all day but these things you probably would not be interested in, because is all you are asking me is would it be ok to try to contact him through a medium, the answer to that is, it would be perfectly alright if you could trust the medium, you see i have got my own views about a lot of so called mediums – they aren,t, you may be surprised to know that quite a few spirits try to find decent mediums so they can make contact with folk on this side, but it has to be said that quite a lot are only interested in taking your money – and their so called noteriety, i think taking advantage of people when they are at there lowest and bereaved is beneath humanity and i would not want this to happen to you, if you heard anyone recomended you could try them, but do be warned :( i also would like to say that everything is energy and we vibrate at a different frequency than they who have gone over, we vibrate at a lower frequency, this is one of the reasons we cannot detect things, however it is possible for them to lower their vibration partly so that if we could higher ours by a similar amount we would be in with achance, this is what happens when we are in the dream state, i can,t guarantee it will work but if you ask your spirit guide to help your son to make contact with you you may find that while in a dream state he may try to contact you, however ask your guide to make this happen just before you awake so that you have more chance of remembering it and less chance of confusing it with a normal dream, i know all this may be a little strange to you but we all have guides from birth that help us at certain times during our lives but normally they are prevented from doing much unless we ask, its a static law i am afaid, we have to ask, there are reasons for this which i will not go into here, but do give this a try and please lighten up, there is another reason i say this- you could even be preventing your son from passing over properly due to you being full of remorse and hurting, may be he as already tried to make contact in some way, it isn,t easy for them you know, especially at first, please do take it easy and i am sure you will get a sign, just look out and be ready, also there is no need to wonder if they know what we thought of them because they know, there is no hiding our feelings from them who have passed because they know our every thought, ok, i wish i could be of more help but i can only tell you about the mechanics and suggest things to try, make youur precious bundle happy by letting him see that you are trying to let him pass over with him knowing that you are going to be alright, do that for him and be glad he is in the better place and that we will all meet at a later time, be with cheer, love harry

  73. harry says:

    anton, see my reply to kersi on mediums, and be very carefull, if anyone wants money for a so called service then be suspicious and only go by recommendations, may be you would like to tell me why you feel you want a medium/psychic- they do exist but i am affraid that genuine ones are few and far between,there are so many that are only interested in money and noteriety, pitty that, may be there is another way around the issue rather than be ripped off, be assured that there are many people in a similar position as yourself, but it doesn,t take a lot of working out, furthermore these so called psychics/spiritists/meduims whatever are quite often nothing like, there are bog standard tricks they use to get your interest and then dress up the information that you have given them and spew it back at you- and we are supposed to convinced,i my self after all my years have seen this so many times, personally we have a hard enough time convincing people that the paranormal exists at all, and then you,ve got these b^s*a+ds making it even harder with their cunning and giving it all a bad reputation, if you cannot find a good recommendation i think you should ask yourself if you really need one at all, be with good cheer ant and keep shining, thanks harry

  74. carol says:

    I usually know about things before they happen, I can spot on get what a person brings over as a surprise gift before I get it and it has nothing to do with something I want or need, but I have never honed my skills. I was told I am a lifepath 33. I just connected with my mom who passed in July of 2011 through a medium, whenever I do this there is always something that is said to me in a certain way or phrase only I know the connection is real. I have to speak directly to my Mom more. She is much better and at peace but has not come in dreams yet. My Dad has been gone 20 years, I was very close to him, he died the day before my birthday. I was the last one with him. The day I buried him, he came in my dreams on a gurney with hospital clothes and his traech was gone and he had that big smile and said “It’s ok, I am alright now. Since then when he feels he needs to talk to me he always comes in my dreams, they are vivid and have a real “feel” to him even without words, the message somehow comes across, plain and simple just like he would tell me when he was here. The first year or so he too had a foot here and in waking hours at time his presence what so strong, and felt so wonderful. My mom told me tonight that when I feel her presence to speak to her, but I have not felt it I must be blocked from stress.

    My father comes to my one sister in dreams too, with a clear message.

    When my father passed, on my birthday after the viewing in the afternoon there was a rainbow, and then I came home to a cake with a rainbow.

    My father and mother both had a good sense of humor. My father let us all know in his own funny way that it was ok, and he loved us enough to make us laugh.

    My father always said he was “going to take it with him when he died and that a Brinks truck would lead the procession. In route to the church a Brinks truck turned out in front of the hearse and took the same route as us and turned off at the corner before the church. My entire family was like wow and laughed and smiled and we talked about it. When we got to the house our phones went dead, the phones never went dead in our house ever. My father worked for Ma Bell in NYC. I called for repair and the repairman came during the repast in the house which was full of NYC phone men (retired and working) drinking a laughing and telling great stories about my dad. The repair guy said I am here to fix the phones (people started laughing). The repairman said what is going on here? I said it is a repast for my father, he was a phone man. My father loved a laugh and made sure that he was still there telling his jokes in his new way and making us still laugh.

    I love and miss them both in the earthly sense, but not only do they live in my heart and mind I know they are there. Like John Lennon said “It’s like getting out of one cab and getting into another” George Harrison said something to the effect of when the body breaks down or is taken, you shed it like taking off a suit and have the astral body.

  75. Turia says:

    I lost my father February 1, 2012, he was 11 days shy of his 87th birthday so I know I am blessed to have him for this long. Since he has passed my sister keeps getting thoughts from him things she needs to find and doesn’t know where, who or what they are and calls me because I have her answers. I wasn’t open to it at first but the other night as I closed my eyes there was a kaleidoscope of black and white images running in and out of each other sort of like old film ( my father was in the film business) and then I heard a male voice say my name. The next day my sister asked me about the date 1976 and wanted be to check the family tree for births and deaths, I didn’t find anything there but later that day I was reading to her ode to my father and I realised the date of 1976 on it was incorrect it was supposed to be 1965. Last night nothing at first but as I woke up we were sitting of an old sofa bed (he used to sleep on one) and he said why don’t we leave it open. I don’t know the meaning of this yet but will keep searching. I sometimes think are we just wanting these things to happen is it really him. He was my everything he raised us as our parents were divorced and I miss him so much.

  76. Christine says:

    Hi, i hv a question that maybe somebody could help me with, my story is not like most everybody elses it was not any of my loved one(s) giving me any signs but rather I had a very questionable dream.On the night of February 2nd I dreamt of one of my coworkers was standing on the right of me and this man about 40s or 50s was standing to the left of me. It was very peaceful and there was no background scenery or such and there were no words spoken that i recall. However, I got the feeling that he was deceased and that he was either her father or like a father figure to her I do not know how in the dream I knew that but i just did. Now the next day at work I happened to work with her and i was going to tell her the dream on my break like i usually tell her my crazy odd dreams but I did not have time… Later that day at work (I admit) I checked my facebook wall quickly on my cell phone and discovered my first post on my wall was from sam from well after i was in bed the night I had the dream about a man that had been dating her mother till she was about seven and was her father figure had died the very day of the night that I had dreamt that. Now i asked her about that post at work and told her why i had asked n about my dream. Now without hearing about him dying not knowing him never meeting him no way of knowing how could i have dreamt something like that? am i going crazy or is there a reasonable explantation. Now when I told her i know she blieved me and she said that he had left their family wen she was seven and until then she had always believed that he was her father however he was not and she hadnt been in contact with him very much but awhile ago. Also in the obit. they listed her as his daughter but her brother as his step son. please help with any advice?… also sorry to all those who have posted about losing loved ones my heart goes out to all of you i cannot imagine however i do blieve all those signs are blessings.

  77. P Nag says:

    I am from India. I am the only son of my beloved father. I am now 35 years old,my father-70 years old.

    He was suffering from last stage of gall bladder cancer with liver metastasis and he survived full 8 course of chemotherapy and other supportive treatment for 18 months and ultimately expired on 18th Oct,2010.

    However till date, I always dream of my beloved dad whom I loved the most, daily- like I am gossiping with my dad when I was young/ Going out for vacation with my mom and dad in school and college days etc.

    Sometimes in my dream I see that I am crying inconsolably but when I wake up, i see that i am normal, no water in my eyes.

    My mother is still alive and ok.

    Am I suffering from hallucination or depression?

    Is there any remedy?

  78. harry says:

    christine, don,t be surprised at what can and does happen, whether in dreams or waking hours, they used to say theres more in heaven and earth than meets the eye, well they should have said more out on the astral and earth than meets the eye, but they were perfectly correct, there is more than the average person would care to take in, you just be thankfull that you are sensitive enough or that entities are trying to make you aware of things,it doesn,t happen to everyone, i know it can be a pain trying to work out what it all means and may be you never will 100% but as for you going funny- forget it, because if you were it would happen in your conscious time, so just be grateful, ok luv, be good- stay brite- nite nite, luv harry

  79. harry says:

    p nag, not likely that your going strange if as you say it only happens in sleep or dream mode, however you may consider that its your fathers way of telling you that he is just like he used to be- at his best, you see thats how they are when they pass over, no ills – no ailments – just at there best at all times, its a long story and you probably would not want to go into it, especially if you have pre conceived ideas about death and the here after, as for you crying in these dreams – when put together with the rest of the drean (if dreams they be)he could be telling you not to grieve for him, all a bit complex i am affraid to explain- at least to someone who hasn,t been involved in the paranormal in any way, however theres nothing to worry about, stay calm and be of good cheer because your father is in the better place now, where we all will eventually return, regards- harry

  80. Linda G. says:


    Yes, I agree about the brainwashing, and they do it young. I went to church with my ex-boyfriend once and the priest called all the little ones up to the front (perhaps 3 to 6 year olds), and started shoving pieces of chocolate in their mouths — not kidding. I was appalled! I guess he was getting them ready for the wafer.

  81. Jess says:

    My Grandmother passed away this week between the hours of 1:30 and 5:00am on Feb. 22nd, 2012. My family knew she was dying as a result of her alzheimers disease. The day she passed the doctors had said she only had a few hours to 5 days to live. When i received this news i had just woken up from a dream about my grandmother passing away. it felt so real. 10 minutes after i woke my mother called me and informed of this. Then at 3:30am on Feb. 22nd my dog who was just laying there calm and relaxed suddenly shot up and sat there staring at something in the room although nothing was there. Then he proceeded to follow this something that was nothing with his eyes and began growling and barking (he is a very well behaved quite dog so this was out of the norm for him and he’s never done this before) then he ran out of the room into the hallway as if he was trying to scare something off and again i looked and nothing was there. I checked my phone for any missed calls cuz i had a gut feeling it was my grandmother i didn’t have any. I woke up the next afternoon and i missed a call form my mother. i called her back and she informed me that they had found my Grandma had passed on when they checked on her at 5am. She was already cold so she had been free of her body for a few hours prior. so then i started to think for sure it was my grandma who visited me cuz i asked her if she could hear me that when she passed she somehow let me know. Then last night it was around 2 or 3am my boyfriend and i were laying in bed. i had my arms folded across my chest and my boyfriends back was to me. i was thinking about my grandma and wondering if she was happy now where she is. Next thing i know my boyfriend asks me if i touch his back. At this moment my arms were still crossed on my chest and i told him no. i asked him “why” and he said “someone just touched my back”. he told me it felt as though someones hand was already resting there and he didn’t realize until someone lifted their hand slowly off his back and the gently pressure was released. The rest of that night i kept hearing things being moved around the room, but my dog was sleeping cuz i checked and there was no other explanation. i remember at one point i was laying in bed and i suddenly just felt very calm and at peace that i was drifting off to sleep smiling. It is only Feb. 23rd im sure im bound to feel my grandma’s presence around me some more.

  82. Lisa says:

    Hi Harry,

    I was always a sceptic of the paranormal until i lost my Dad in december and strange little things started happening and i find great comfort in knowing that he is still around us and not suffering anymore. My question is what actually happens at the moment of death and in the first few days after? – Lisa

  83. Bonnie says:

    Dear Kersi, I am so sorry for the loss of your beloved son. You are not going crazy, you have suffered the worse loss a mother could have. I lost my 25 year old son a year ago and have found much help from other parents at The Compassionate Friends website. I talk to other parents who have lost a child on their facebook page. If you Google them you can find support there. (( HUGS))

  84. Anna says:

    Hi Lisa,

    Just to say that I wrote an article that you might found helpful:

    What Happens After Death?

    Obviously that is just my take on it from what I’ve learned through my work in the spirit world.

    If anyone here is interested in exploring my other articles on mediumship and the afterlife, you can visit my articles page: and scroll down until you see the category ‘Mediumship and the Afterlife’ and there you will see several articles to peruse.

    All the best,


  85. Kersi says:

    Thanks Bonnie – I really to speak to someone, it makes me feel a bit light and reduces the burden on my heart. I shall connect with the Compassionate Friends blog.

  86. harry says:

    lisa, always get back if you want answers, well when we leave our earthly bodies there sre 2 or 3 scenarios, for instance if someone has suddenly met with a fatal accident and the loss of life was quick- the deceased may decide to hang around for a time for differing reasons may be to view how the family or loved ones are taking things, or may be they are not sure they are deceased yet or whatever, some may go over almost immediately, but under all circumstances spirits come to meet them, could be their guides or passed family members or loved ones, but eventually we all will pass, there are a small number of spirits that can get type of land locked for longer periods but we won.t go into that, on leaving the earthly shackle of the body behind they will soon realise that they can travel places by using thought, you see everything is energy, and although we vibrate at different rates its a fact that they know what we are thinking, so there is no hiding the way we feel about them because they know already if we loved them or not, so theres not a chance that they do not know already, there is a lot more to tell if you need to know but it takes a bit to get used to things that you previously did not even believe, safe to say that your dad is just fine and still periodically watching over you, so be of good cheer because if you are happy then you will be helping him move on, without concern for your being upset over his passing too much, there are many spheres on the astral plane and when one progesses onward its possible to reach ever higher and higher status, if there is anything else just ask, have a good day and be cheerfull, X

  87. Kersi says:

    Harry – before his death my son Parzan maintained a diary and used to write things that were very confidential with him. I read in his diary he had a premonition – he dream’t that he was travelling with his grandma and sister when he got down to pick up some stuff and saw two cars coming from either direction. In his dream he was 15 yrs then and was confused as to how to save himself from the two cars coming in his direction. Before he could think of a way he ended his comment putting ……..and concluded “that was my bad luck”. I feel so remorseful that had I understood his dream probably I could have saved him.

  88. harry says:

    kersi, you are not very specific with your last posting, originally you say that your son was 11 when he passed and i assume he would be 12 now, you asy you found a diary he kept- well was this only found recently ? if not why did you not mention it earlier ? you also say that he was 15 in his dream- which was noted in the diary- i find it hard to see why he should be seeing himself as 15 in this dream- or even that a figure was mentioned as there is no such thing as time as we know it on the astral, if it was some kind of warning to watch out for when he was 15 i could reconcile that- but seeing he didn,t get to 15 anyway i think that there are somethings lacking in your post, furthermore the comments in the diary that you post are incomplete- but to your thinking that you may have been able to have done something to have saved him if you had understood the dream- well how could you ? the diary was private and i assume you would not have seen it, also the details you submit are incomplete, and due to the fact that he was 15 in the dream anyway i think we should just leave this dream in obeyance and just call it a dream and no more, and certainly not a premonition or communication, you see we dream all the time anyway and on the odd occassion if we do get contact during sleep mode then we are posed with the problem of unravelling what we dreamed about to try to disseminate what was rubbish and what was communication, if you wanted to submit the whole diary entry i would look at it at face value- but seeing that it was supposed to be private and that there isn,t much chance of it meaning much anyway you probably would,t do that, just as a matter of interest, what is your familys extrction ? could it be spanish, you called your son parzan which is a very nice name and one that appeals to me greatly it is also the name of a little spanish place, on the other hand i think this name can be found in asian continents, stop beating yourself up- you could not have done anything- just let your son see that you can cope with your loss so that he can progress on without being tied to earth too much, ok luv harry X

  89. missy says:

    pooja im so sorry for your loss of your cat i cryed so hard reading what you wrote animals dont know how long they are suposed to live and thet except what they go threw.i wish i could suffer in stead of the animals. i love them so much. i feel for the people who love their pets.i wish you peace. look up pets comming back to vist after they die. i have read some storys. ad i sometimes feel a cat jump on my bed when their was no cats.take care .i will pray tonight for u and peace

  90. missy says:

    pooja i forgot, i also dream of my kittys ive lost alot.hope you do to. that kitty knew they were loved

  91. Louisa says:

    Hi, I’m from a family of 8 (4 girls 4 boys) we lost our beloved younger sister in 2000 (17yrs old) died of an aneurism. In 2006 we lost our beloved Mother (53 1/2 yrs old) due to complications. WE MISS THEM SOOOOOOO MUCH and our family is not the same. Before our younger sister died she had “visions” kind of like a 6th sense. She had told us that she was sitting in the park (during the day) reading a book when she heard a baby cry coming from behind the public toilets in the park, she went over to see if there really was an infant crying but there was nobody, so she went back to her spot in the park and continued reading when this guy appeared from nowhere near the public toilets. Our sister described him as like “looking into a mirror” he was well dressed and well spoken he looked a lil older than her (say a couple of years?) I remember my sister saying “he was dressed in winter clothing on a hot summer day” this guy walks up to my sister and asks her “hows Mum?” and my sister said “You mean MY Mum?” and he goes “Hows Mum?” and she said “Good” he then said to her “tell Mum to keep taking her tablets” and “You’ve got something wrong with your heart” you see my sister used to get a bit iffy when people talk about her heart as she had Rheumatic Fever due to a leaky valve in her heart. So she was kinda angry then this guy says to her “Have the operation” and that he sends his love to us all. When my sister looked down and up to answer him he was gone! She came home that day and told us…my Mum said it must’ve been Steven (our brother that died-stillborn). I’m sorry i don’t think I can write anymore it’s too emotional…:( i’m sorry i started…:( my minds going back to that horrible place “sadness/emptiness” knowing that my Mum and my sister are gone! sorry…just getting teary eyed…

  92. Louisa says:

    The thing that got us about our younger sister the day of her operation was Monday 18.09.00 before they wheeled her in (after our prayers with her in her hosp room) she said to us “i’ll be home on Friday”. Friday 22.09.00 was the day she came home in a casket :( the out of it feeling is that I video diary’d (sorry is there such a word? you know what i mean) her last weeks in hosp with us, coz after work i’d go straight to the hosp everyday (both my older sister and I as our immediate family moved overseas) it’s sad that you’d think your loved one will pull through, but sadly she did not. We miss her SOOOO MUCH she was hillarious and was soooo tough for her age. If she were here now, I’d love to kiss her and HUG her for the years that we’ve missed each other. Would love to see what she would’ve looked like now…maybe our lives could’ve been different?? Would love to have that sisterly catchup, goss etc…I think of her as going on a long vacation :)

    We feel that what added to our Mum’s illness was that of a broken heart (was never over the death of our younger sister) Mum was our ROCK and HEART of our family, BACKBONE and glue to the extended family. I won’t go into detail about what happened to our Mum as it’s just too painful. When my son (8mths at the time) and I were saying goodbye (knowing she was going to pass) (sorry just crying and typing) she had the strength to tell me and baby to “go away” I took it as..she didn’t want us kids to see her that way…she was very very ill in a bad way :( we all took turns (us older lot) looking after Mum in hosp (4 of us siblings were adult kids at the time as the younger 3 were YOUNG, the baby of us lot was 7yrs old) my 2nd eldest sister was on night duties with Mum, she got a phone call from security saying that there was a young girl and an “aunty” wanting to come up and visit my Mum at 9:30pm when visiting hours were long over (8pm) so my sister and Mum waited and waited but to no avail..nobody showed up, so that was pretty weird. The day Mum passed away my sister and I were sooo hungry/tired that we went to get brekky then home for a lil nap (we left the hosp 5am), we just got home when the phone rang around 6:15am it was our Aunty (Mums younger sister) saying for us to come to the hosp NOW as Mum just passed away. The whole family were in the room we couldn’t find space to sit, I was ANGRY AT Mums family for being in that room and not letting us kids and our Dad have OUR TIME or ALONE TIME TO SAY OUR GOODBYES. We all felt for Dad as he wanted so much to be alone with Mum but her WHOLE family were there and the room was packed. For the whole week (we had Mums body home in the casket) cats were crying outside our windows nightly, it got to the point where i wanted to throw something at them, so i kept chasing them away but they kept coming back.

    After Mums death, I went into surgery, my gall bladder/stones removed and d&c (couple of mths after Mums funeral) I felt a warm presence near my bedside and I just smiled knowingly it was her sitting there on the empty seat by my bed. I knew I was safe and I know she visits us when she can. 2yrs after her death, my older sister and her kids came over for a holiday with me and my family, we were catching up with all the family and we lost track of the time it was 2:30am! lol I went outside for a ciggie when my 2yr old son woke up and was watching me from inside, I go over to him and he’s looking side by side and said to me “Nana’s here…she’s gone now..” I was like..”what?” then my son went back to the room to sleep. The next day I tell my older sister of what my son said and my older sister says to me “Yeah I dreamnt of Mum last night..” I soooo believe that she came to us that night and all those other nights that we feel a WARM presence we know it’s her or our sister…WE LOVE YOU MUM AND SIS! Dear Lord Jesus please tell them we love them and miss them sooo much..our angels in heaven Rest In Love! I LOVE THIS THREAD – LOVE AND PRAYERS TO YOU ALL, GOD BLESS!!! xoxoxo

  93. Georgie says:

    Hi, I am still waiting for a sign…… My darling, beautiful baby boy Blake went to sleep on the morning of 13/02/12 and never woke up, he was just 10 weeks old. I am straining, constantly asking him for a sign that he is safe, and happy, and loved as much as he was here. It was sudden, and as far as we know at the present moment he wasn’t ill. He was a happy, contented baby BUT 7 years ago he came to me in a dream n said, I’ve got to go now Mummy. That was when I was pregnant with my daughter, I could never shake the feeling that should I ever have a boy, he wouldn’t be with me long, I just couldn’t believe it when it happened though, I need so much to know he’s still here. I thought I felt him the night of his passing, but my daughter has seen him n talked to him in a dream. Now, if he managed to get a message to me BEFORE he was born, why not now ? Any advice would be appreciated. Baby Blake, 04.12.11 to 13.02.12, always my beautiful, blue-eyed baby boy xxxxxx

  94. Shelley says:

    My dad just passed away early in the morning on February 10th at the age of 55 in hospice. He had emphysema and was in a coma for 2 days before he passed. He couldn’t speak or really respond to much for a few days before that, plus he had a bipap mask to help him breathe.
    A few hours after his passing, my sister and I came home and basically passed out from lack of sleep. I had a vivid dream that we were sitting in hospice with my dad…just like the few hours we sat with him before he passed, except he looked more “alive” and was only wearing a nasal cannula for oxygen. He had his eyes closed and smiled a big smile…he mumbled that he was ok, he loved us, don’t worry and that he couldn’t talk. I think he was trying to communicate with us since he couldn’t while we were there with him before his passing. I’ve had other dreams, but this one really stuck with me.

  95. Anna says:

    Georgie, I am so sorry about your baby. It sounds like he had a loving mom while he was alive, and it also sounds like the whole thing would have been pre-arranged. I mean, the fact that he came to you in a dream a long time prior to the time he was born shows that it was pre-arranged as a growth experience for both of you, although I know that won’t make it hurt any less. I am sure he is looking down on you and smiling.

    Best wishes.

  96. Anon says:

    The dead do not communicate with us at all. My dad died in 1997 and I was unable to say good bye or grieve due to shock. Till this day I have the rare dream of my dad. Dad only appears when I am very stressed. In every dream he is rendereing assistance to me eg navigating a vehicle and reading a map or keeping sentry at my house that was burgled shortly before my dream. After his death, I kept his photo in my bedroom. I relocated to another town but his photo remained in my old bedroom. At the beginning of January this year I removed dad’s photo from my old bedroom and brought it to my current home where I actually live. I now have the photo in my new bedroom. Well, about three weeks after the removal of dad’s photo, my old house was burgled. This was the first burglary ever in my old house. I sometimes comfort myself by saying that dad was keeping sentry at my old house. Now I have taken to talking to dad’s photo. But I do believe that spirits don’t exist. We merely comfort ourself by correlating certain events to an act of the spirit of a dearly departed loved one. I mean, I was close to my dad and he is the only one I ever dream about; I don’t ever have meaningful dreams of other departed relatives. Whe I die, I just want to go and never to return to guide or assist the living.

  97. harry says:

    georgie, it sounds like anna may have hit the nail firmly on the head with saying that it was pre arranged, however to say this really assumes that the person (ie you)is familliar with what happens before a spirit is reborn, also that you believe in re incarnation at all, most people i am affraid do not, i think some kind of brief explanation should be given to you to explain this comment, this i would gladly give but i am afraid it couldn,t be that brief, as i am sure anna would agree, however if you wish this i would only be too gratefull to do this, but if you have any pre conceived ideas of heaven and hell as taught in the church you will have to put these firmly on the back burner, or better still toss them out with the rubbish, however whatever your decision you can take it that your little precious is just fine as i know anna is in perfect agreement with this. love harry

  98. Sam says:

    My dad passed away in June of 2008. I still havent fully come to terms with it, it just seems so surreal. Although I generally doubt his presence may still linger, there are certain times I question that belief. I have peculiar and oftentimes upsetting dreams rather frequently. They all seem to convey a strong subconscious message.. I can’t say whether he tries to contact me in any of them but they always have some profound meaning. Friends and relatives have reported seeing him/his figure in the house at night, and many feel uneasy in the other rooms of the house aside from my bedroom. And I feel the same way, especially about my parents bedroom (where my dad died and many of his belongings remain) although it isn’t fear as much as an uneasiness by a feeling of being watched….
    The other night I had people over. When we settled, three people in the room said they heard my parents door slam shut despite the fact that we were the only ones there. And again tonight, I heard it myself. The distinct sound of my parents door across the hall closing abruptly, then faint movement in the hallway.
    I mainly ignore it. I don’t care to pay attention to these things anymore. I used to believe in this stuff, but lately I prefer rationalism over wishful thinking. Though, part of me wants it to be true..
    Assuming he’s watching, I’m reluctant to allow my dads spirit to move on. If he hasn’t already. Its too difficult for me to accept… If he’s still around, I’m afraid to acknowledge his reasons in staying.. I’m not doing anything in life that would make him proud so my guilt and anxiety of possibly being seen by an invisible force makes me depressed. I want to know what he’d say if I could sonehow contact him, then again I don’t. I wish I could forget about losing my father at 15, the one and only person I’ve ever felt close to.. I wish I knew the answers to every question I’ve ever pondered concerning my dads death.

  99. Cyndi says:

    My grandfather who was like my father died in 1997. Him and my grandmother moved to NC, USA about 2 months before his passing. Everytime I talked to them on the phone I would be fine when I talked with my grandmother but as soon as my grandfater got on I would start crying and after I got off the phone I would just ball. Not sure if this was a preminition on my part or what.
    So one day I was at home with my two kids and I kept hearing things fall. I couldn’t figure out what the heck it was. Wasn’t my kids so just unsure. But about 30 mintues after the last object fell my mother came over to tell me that my grandfather had died. Of course I freaked right out. Since then I have had dreams about him often. Matter of fact right after he passed I had a dream that he was like on a train and with a bunch of older people that I had never seen before. I tryed to explain what these people looked like to my grandmother and she told me that they sounded like his sister and mother. So I’m hoping that is him because I miss him so much. I just wish I could get a for sure answer that there is life after death because I go to bed crying or having panic attacks because I’m going to be dead someday. My life would be so much better if I only knew for sure.

  100. nadia says:

    My uncle passed away a couple of weeks ago and I recently realized that the dead can hear you! So I’ve been trying to communicate with him, every time I just keep on talking out loud saying that uncle I know u hear me and I want you to give me a sign, I went to bed and when I woke up my window was half open… I have never open it, I live alone, and I thought that was weird? Is this possible? Can it be my uncle?? Please let me know xoxoxo
    We were not close and I was not that affected when he left but I surely love him and have tons of respect for him… I wanted to experience talking to the dead and now I want to know if he can open my window!
    He has not appear in any of my dreams tho but then again I don’t always remember my dreams!

  101. harry says:

    sam, like to say that i know where you are coming from not believing in the so called paranormal- but let me just give you a different view, there are all sorts of people that do not believe- some because of religion- but do you know that the early christians used to teach about life after death but it was struck from the teachings because it suited the higher ups in the church to do that at the time to favour their own dastardly ends ?, false religion has always done more harm than good but a lot of sheeple cannot see that or may be don,t want to, then there are the men of science- some of which refuse to believe because they require 100% proof- but they will never get that because science is looking for something that isn,t scientific- its a bit like me looking for light intensity with a sound meter, (not much joy there)science however admits there is a lot it doesn,t understand,my own GP doesn,t believe in a here after, yet a lot of people in the medical profession are like that, they see only the nuts and bolts of a body and totally ignore that it has a spiritul side, and tend to treat it like a car that sometimes needs to be patched up now and then to get it back on the road without ever giving it a thought that it has a spiritual side, and by this i certainly don,t mean religious, my own father did not believe in anything like that till he had his own out of body experience- there are also the people that become anaesathesised to things- example a nurse goes into her profession and in the early days is effected greatly by death- but in no time at all becomes cavalier to this because she sees it so often- police see violence all the time and evetually live it- so it is an everyday occurence to them and quite normal, these are exaples of how people become anaesthesised to situations whether it be death or paranormal or anything at all till part of them shuts down and they become blinkered to things which may be quite obvious to others, this however does not mean that things do not exist, me my self at my time of life would not care one bit if there was nothing on the other side- i have seen more than enough on this side thank you, and if my phone came peranently off the hook when i passed over i would not mind at all- BUT I DO BELIEVE – but at least no one can say its because of a feeling of desperation in my case because i am past caring, anyhow rest assured that your father is very happy where he is and is periodically watching you from a vantage point, my own father passed over in 1998 and my mother in 2008 incidentally, i also never came to terms with losing them, and heres me believing in what i do, if your father is still trying to give you messages or trying to let you know one way or another be thankfull- i wish mine would. kindest thoughts harry,

  102. Louisa says:

    I recommend the book Embraced By The Light by Betty J. Eadie – read it it’s GOOD

  103. kristin says:

    I always have dreams about my boyfriend who passed 4 years ago and he was the love of my life. when i dream of him its always in a beautiful flower field or the water, and its also not me going back in time because in the dreams i knew he was dead but he had came back and everytime I’m so excited that he came back again and I’m always trying to make things work again but I know he has to leave he was just visiting me. I can smell him feel his hair listen to his voice feel him in the dream and so when i wake up its like it was yesterday he died and i cry all day from the time I wake up and realize he’s not here! If someone can explain this like hes really visiting me?

  104. Artisticgurl says:

    I believe I’ve developed a spiritual connection with someone I never got to meet in this life. I only saw him on TV. Is this possible??? I believe something is going on but I’m not 100% certain yet. I’ve talked to someone about this and she said that I have a connection with this man, a really deep connection that is special. She’s has done auto writings with this man, he’s given her messages and she’s relayed them to me. She’s taught me how to do auto writings because he wanted to talk to me and I would be able to talk to him. I am actually getting the name of this man every time I do an auto writing. He says that I am communicating with him but I feel like it’s just my brain saying the things that are being written down, saying the things that I want to hear. Or perhaps I want this connection so badly that my brain is imagining things. I was raised to believe that we would be re-united with our loved ones in heaven when my time came. I never thought being connected spiritually with someone I never got to meet in person would be possible. Am I going insane? Do I need to find a padded cell to sit in? This is all a very long detailed story and sadly I would take up several pages trying to type everything all out. I have seen several signs that remind me of him, his favorite car, his favorite drink etc. He comes to me in dreams a lot and he looks so happy and healthy and glowing and just beautiful and at peace. Any help would be greatly appreciated and hopefully I’m not going insane.

  105. Jack says:

    To Nadia,

    Yes, that is DEFINITELY your uncle, and yes, he can open windows and do a lot more. I know that because I communicate daily with a deceased buddy of mine who has left me dozens and dozens of signs since I started to talk with him 3 years ago. He moves things, knocks small things like bottles over with a bang (as a “yes” answer to a question), turns things on and off. How they do it is with telepathy, projecting a energy source in our physical plane to do what they want to see happen. If your uncle answered you so quickly after you asked him if he was there, that means that he will continue, knowing you’re not afraid. When I first started communicating with Jim, I asked a question after question, and he continued to answer. Now I think of him as a roommate who just happens to be invisible. :-) Ask your uncle another question and see what happens. Yes/no questions are easiest for him to respond to.

  106. Anon says:

    Hi Kristin

    Kristin, dreams are our inner most conscious thoughts acting out in vivid dreams. So, you harbour thoughts of your deceased boyfriend, though these thoughts are so light during the time you are awake that you barely realise them. When you sleep, your thoughts do not dissipate, they materialise as dreams. In your wake state you know that your boyfriend is no longer alive physically, but in your thughts, you want him alive, and you want him with you. Your dreams of your boy friend are merely your brain acting while you are asleep. You now know that all of this makes you terribly unhappy and you are unfulfilled. So what to do? Tell yourself that you will move on, you will no longer be unhappy and unfulfilled. This should put a stop to the dreams and this dreadful sense of unfulfilment. You are alive. You deserve happiness. Let go of the deceased.

  107. Candice says:

    Hi All

    I have been having some terrible days since my fiance Shane died. For the most part I have sort of stopped feeling anything which I know is bad. If you haven’t read my earlier post then just to fill you in – Shane died on the 3rd of December. Since he died I have been trying to talk to him through divination and the pendulum does swing and I ask crazy questions that only he would know the answers too which always are answered correctly. Then recently I have been hearing a voice in my head – almost like someone is speaking in my mind. I believe its Shane but it could just be my imagination. He gives me advice and tells me not to worry and that he is with me always. Then last night I had a wobbly and totally broke down when I went to bed – I experienced the wierdest sensation. I was busy sobbing holding my pillow and the next thing the voice said – Angel don’t cry – I don’t know what to do when you cry (something Shane always said to me) and then I felt this weird feeling on my arm. It wasn’t my whole arm it was a very directed feeling about the size of someone’s hand on my forearm. It was a bit like pins and needles but not quite, it wasnt painful but it was also a bit ticklish at first and the changed to that feeling when someone has been tickling the same spot for ages it becomes very sensitive and then it just stayed there until I fell asleep. All the time in my head the voice was telling me memories and telling me how much he loves me and that I am going to be ok and that he is waiting for me but first I have to live a long happy life. Can Shane touch me and what would a spirit feel like – could I be going nuts. I am really worried because intellectually I know the memories but when I try and recall them I can’t see his face. Could the voice be him or am I so desperate to find him that my imagination is trying to trick me? I miss him so much and I have many regrets although the voice and the channeler that I went too; keep assuring me that it wasn’t my fault that he died (he was an alcoholic {but not an abusive one} and his liver eventually gave in – but I had moved out 3 months before to try and force him to quit – although I saw him almost every day and spoke to him at least 4 – 5 times a day) and I must not have any regrets. The channeler who is this amazing Jewish guy and doesn’t charge because he says its his God gift and will help anyone told me that Shane was happy and better and he felt more alive now than he has in years. That he is sorry for everything he put me through, he is sorry he left and he is sorry he couldnt give me everything I needed but he loves and will always be with me. Sorry I am rambling – I just have to get this out.

  108. elizabeth says:

    Hi my dad died two years ago due to illness. On his death bed my mother told me to tell him that I loved him and it was okay to go. I could not tell him its okay to go but I did tell him I loved him and said goodbye. Since then I have had a few dreams and was really surprised to read that it is a common occurance for a lost loved one not to speak directly through their lips during dreaming. I really want to look to into ways in which I could speak to him and he could communicate back but I don’t know if that’s a real possibility as I don’t know that I believe in that sort of thing. While trying to sort that out in my mind I also have another inquiry. I was born on 05/05/85 and was adopted to two wonderful people. My first name has 5 letters. My middle name begins with the 5th letter of the alphabet. My older adopted brother is 5 years older. When I found my biological parents they both had sons with other people who were each five years younger than me. Plus each biological parent had 4 other children making me the oldest of 5.both of the oldest sons names have 5 letters. The list goes on and on.what the hell is up with the number 5 if anything? I’ve looked around online but can’t find anything. Maybe its nothing but just now as I’m typing a customer came in (I’m a photographer) and ordered a 5.5 X 5.5 size print. Seriously odd. Any suggestions?

  109. Amanda says:

    Hi my husband passed last June 2011 since his death I haven’t had a sign I don’t even dream of him and the hardest thing about it is I can’t remember anything what we’ve done together can anyone tell me why this is and can anyone tell me if I will ever see him I ask ever night that I would love to see him just to prove to me that there is really life after death please can anybody help thank you xx

  110. Linda G. says:


    I enjoy what you write so much. You seem to have so much wisdom and insight and intelligence. Thank you for sharing!

    Linda G.

  111. harry says:

    amanda, people comment about the spirit of loved ones that have passed over- well let me give you my comment on this- firstly i am not a total advocate of dream meanings it has to be said- although it is possible for them to use this method- i find one has to keep a tight reign on imagination here because as you know we all have to dream- if we were prevented from doing so we would probably go mad, the things that we dream are usually thoughts that we have had during the previous day/s, however don,t let this scientific explanation let you believe that passed loved ones never do this because they can and do- whether it is so often as some would believe is debatable, there are comments on here by someone that says they don,t believe the deceased communicate with us – i find this sad because if what this person says they have experienced i think they don,t believe this and they are just hurting so bad that it is still very painful- or don,t want to believe- well thats fine but i don,t like it when someone tells others that something that i know is possible is not so- so i just have to put the record straight by saying contact in dreams is possible and if i am pushed i will even say how this happens, i think the moderators should take a different view of things because this is supposed to be a paranormal website after all- people do want to know what happens after passing and i don,t think we need someone basically telling people in stress that they have no hope of contact after passing (totally wrong) i think, however rest assured that your husband is fine- he was probably one of the ones that passed over relatively quickly but this does not mean that you will not get signs in the future (not always dreams) don,t worry either about not being able to remember other aspects of him because i have come across this before and its a type defense mechanism that has triggered within you which will pass of course, all things will become apparent, just know that he is fine now and that we will all be together again when we pass over, however what your hubby would want now is to know that you can let him pass over and be reassured of his wish that you will be coping just fine, i know its all a bit raw at the moment but make him happy by being strong and if some form of contact is desirable it will be forthcoming but i did say if, get back if you wish anymore exact explanation, luv harry

  112. elizabeth says:

    Update. So maybe the 5 thing is all bs or just a distraction for me from dealing with my deeper issues. But for about a week I saw 5s everywhere and generally at least 3 5s in a row. This has happened before usually followed by some great change. And. Yes this time was no different. I started seeing the 5s again and thought okay either somethings coming or I’m bat shit crazy. And then my mom tells me she “failed her mamogram” and has to have a biopsy to see if these calcium deposit things r begnign or malignant. And my biological mom contacts me to tell me her sister died in a car crash on Monday. And then yesterday my brother tells me he’s moving two states away. Coincidence yeah probably but it does have me wondering other possibilities. Does anyone know or has anyone heard anything like this or should I seek councelling?

  113. Rebecca says:

    My friend’s brother died around 2 years ago. Last year, something very weird happened. I had a very dramatic dream, and he was in it.

    The dream was this: He was standing there frantically waving his arms and silently screaming at me….like he was panicked. In the background, I could hear the song they played as they wheeled out his casket during his funeral. So there he was waving his arms and silently yelling, and all the sudden, I heard my dream self say, “Is she dead?” Immediately, I knew that I we were talking about my friend (his sister). It’s like, I couldn’t hear what he was saying, but we were still communicating.

    Well, the dream immediately woke me up, and I had a horrible feeling in my stomach. I wanted to call my friend and check on her so badly, but I felt like it might be an insensitive thing to do and I’d seem crazy if the dream meant nothing. However, the feeling stayed with me all day. Later that evening, I couldn’t stand it anymore, and I had to give her a call. Thankfully, she answered. I asked her if she was OK, and she asked, “Yeah…why?” The way she asked me that, though, was weird, like there was more to it…and I knew something that I shouldn’t. So, I went ahead told her about my dream, even though I felt really stupid doing so. At first, she was just quiet. Then, she said, “Oh my God! What time did you have that dream? My ex-husband’s apartment caught on fire this morning, and my kids were there!”

    As it turned out, right about the same time I was having that dream, her ex and her two kids were escaping the fire. (everyone was OK)

    Personally, I think her brother was trying to wake me up so I could get her over there. Her kids needed her. Even though I was not much help, because I waited until that night to call, it was still a confirmation to her that her brother was looking out for her. I just don’t know why I had that dream and not her. Maybe some people are easier to reach than others? I don’t know.

  114. Edo says:

    Is it possible that my 3 year old son can communicate with us some how? Being so young, maybe he doesn’t even know what happened?

  115. harry says:

    linda,g thanks for your praise, i do do my best at times to try at least to put the minds of individuals at rest if i can, i do find it sad that a lot of people do not believe in life after death and rebirth and the constant cycle of events that a spirit will go through- however i can also understand that it can be beyond the scope so to speak of some people, i mean with the bad name that charlatans give the paranormal for one thing, and the rubbish tv companies cook up to boost ratings and no more, you know the kind of shows i am on about- personally i couldn,t watch most of those for very long before getting bad vibes, people tend to think that everything is crooked- well i only have one rule of thumb- if someone wants to charge you for something beware unless its a recommended medium/psychic or whatever- one also has to be choosy about commenting on sites such as these also because there are those who would just be having a laugh or posting comments just for attention, and one must try to see through the veil as it were, personally i have spent many years studying and also getting things organised in my mind so that whatever questions i my self or other people may ask i can answer them as openly and honestly as i can, of course people i know friends and such probably think i am a little strange because of my understanding of the so called paranormal, people always view someone as a little weired if they are interested or involved in any way with it- but as they say- its their problem- at least i am here for them when they want answers- such as if they have a experience of their own or the like- anyone who thought space travel would have been possible back in the 18th century would have probably been sectioned, the same goes for the many scientific advanements we have seen- however the so called paranormal is not scientific – which is why science will never understand one hundred percent- however it will understand a modicom in future time but i think not much more, sadly- i constantly refer to the paranormal as the so called paranormal this is because there is nothing para about it- its perfectly normal – its just people do not see it that way- but you can rest assured of one thing- and that is no matter what a person believes in it will not stop it from happening – we all cross over and we all progress spiritually whether mr and mrs choose to believe or not, there is an old amusing saying and it goes like this, at the end of the day the white queen and the black king all go in the same box, something to look forward to if you like chess i guess, seriously though spirits from the other side have commented how nice existence is on the astral and beyond, there are many spheres you see and one is meant to progess- but always at ones own pace, coming back to earth if and when it is beneficial to do so as in rebirth, the strangest thing is that when i was born the old midwife back then who had probably delivered thousands of babies said to my mother that this ones been here before(refering to me) how did she know i wonder ? learning things and picking things up were second nature to me and it felt like i had done some things for years when in fact i had only just started doing whatever it was, if ever you need any advice or such like just leave a post and i will of course get back, personally i am a bit of a jeckyl and hide because even though i believe what i do- i am also very down to earth just like my dear father was- so sometimes i feel somewhat of a fraud that i should know so much of both sides of the fence so to speak and it sometimes takes effort to reconcile one with the other, trying not to let the earthly side of me take over tooo much, oh well i will bid you good bye now and wish you all the best, luv harry

  116. Artisticgurl says:

    Hi Harry,

    Could you please tell me if it’s possible to have a spiritual connection with someone you’ve only seen but never got to meet? Is it possible to talk to them through dreams and auto writing? Thank you Harry :o)

  117. Artisticgurl says:

    Sorry for the double post- that’s supposed to be a smiley face. Can’t really tell if it is or not Sorry!

  118. harry says:

    edo, you are more than economical with the contents of your post, do we take it that your son has passed over ? you don,t say, be more specific.harry.

  119. Artisticgurl says:

    Could someone please answer my question so my heart and soul can be at peace? I need to know if it’s possible to have a spiritual connection with someone I only saw but never got to meet. He died a couple of years ago. I am communicating with someone but I don’t know if it’s him or not. I always ask for a name and I get his name but I’m not certain if it’s him because I don’t know if it’s possible to have a connection with some I never got to meet. Please help

  120. Thea says:

    To Elizabeth. You’re not insane! I think life works around numbers. I have many 7′s. I hate seeing the number seven as I know something negative usually follows. I dreamed of three 7′s years ago. My mum died in 1997, (12/22 = 1+2+2+2 = 7). My daughter was diagnosed with a serious condition at 7 months in 2007. My husband’s health began to deteriorate while we were living at a number 7 address. I bought a vehicle with 777′s on the number plate, and my husband died of cancer while I had this vehicle. He died when I was 43 (4 plus 3 = 7) The list goes on….You’re not crazy! It happens.

  121. harry says:

    artisticgurl, all what you ask is possible, but how likely is it that you would want to do that, firstly there is no way i can explain what i want to without probably boring you, firstly you are not aquainting me of any details regarding this person you say you have never met but only saw, you see i would like more detail because no one case is like another- i could sit be here all day telling you that things are possible but without knowing more about the case i could not posssibly be expected to give you more than just sketchy yes and no,s- (not really very helpfull to you) it is however possible that this person may try and make contact with you whether you knew him on this side or not- there may be many reasons why this person may want to make contact- but in reality it is more than likely to be just one reason- like i say without knowing much about the situation i can only give you possible guesses, for instance may be you know someone on this side that this person did when he was on this side and you being of a sensitive nature (receiving wise) may be his only way he feels he can make any form of contact- may be he wants you to contact this third party- who knows you see the possibilities are endless without being acquainted with more detail- but yes you do not have had to have known that person on this physical plane, however they on the other side they certainly know about us- including what ia in our hearts- to use a more romantic phrase- of course this could extend to any form of contact that the spirit thinks you are capable of handling, i note that by the tone of one of your posts- when you say so that your heart and soul can rest- well i really must say that if its stressing you out then are you sure you wan to keep going there, if you do then it must be for a reason so one must be prepared for whatever comes back, think- be sure- is this where you really want to go- if so no problem i will help- but do try and give more detail, ok, harry

  122. Edo says:


    Sorry, yes, he did. My bad, I assumed that. He passed almost 2 months ago. I missed him so much, I call his name, I speak to him, but no answer back. I thought about the Ouija, but my logic said that he didn’t know how read/write…Too young at 3.


  123. Artisticgurl says:

    Hi Harry,

    Thank you for your response. Do you have an email address I could send my “story” to? [Note from the moderator: please do not post your email address here in the comments - it opens you up to tons of spam. Harry if you wish to be in touch with Artisticgurl send an email to us via the contact form and we'll pass it on.] I don’t feel really comfortable explaining my situation here. I really feel that some might read my experiences and think me crazy, no offense to anyone. I apologize if I came off a bit mean and nasty, I’m searching for answers and desperately want someone to help me. I can tell you that I do want to know what is going on and I pray and hope that it’s not all in my head and I hope and pray with my entire being that he is really communicating with me and that he means what he says to me. I can send you my auto writings if that will help as well. Thank you Harry!

  124. harry says:

    edo, yes it is possible that your son can communicate with you- however because of his tender age it is more likely that he crocced over relatively quickly without being tied to earth for an unspecified amount of time, young children nearly always cross over quickly because they have not been tainted by false religious beliefs and other fixed rigid ideas that slow up there progress, you see a young child will more readilly accept the situation for what it is and will not have to go through a type of debriefing as it were- but you still do not say what the reason for his passing was, if it was a childhood illness you can assume that he passed quickly, if however it was some kind of quck accident then it could be different- this is why detail is important and no one case need be like another, also it is not likey in reality that your son will be able to contact you yet even though it is actually possible, the reason for this is when they reach the astral they are still as children- they do not suddenly grow up mentally into adults- this takes time- and they have to get used to things as they are now- but it does not mean that he will never make contact with you, in fact you may find that he may try to contact you in future or he will at least come back periodically to watch you- this part is almost certain- but it will take time, and then will you yourself be able to detect when/if he does try to make contact ? i don,t however recommend the ouija because there are tooo many variables to consider and i am afraid this could only lead to disappointment, i suggest the only way forward is to let him pass at his own pace and when he is ready if you still want contact with him he will already be aware of this- but it is too early yet also it would be better for him if he could see you coping without going to pieces, i am sure that in the future you will be visited by him countless times but the question is as ever- will you be able to detect his presence, but you can be assured of one thing- and that he is in the better place now and very happy, also donn,t forget that we are all spirit creatures and that this phyaical plane as we know it is not our natural home- this is a place were we come to further our education so to speak, a kind of training ground, also never forget that we will all be together again when we pass over, nothing or no one is ever lost, do be assured that there is nothing to fear about dying because really we don,t :) harry

  125. net says:

    I just attended a group with a medium…never did anything like that before. Received some messages – some that made total sense. Trying to wrap my head around all of this. My mom passed away suddenly at my house last April 25th. I have a lot of guilt because I didn’t check on her sooner in the morning when she didn’t get up. I am hoping I hear from her myself without the help of a Medium. Happy to have found this site.

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  127. Georgie says:

    Thanks Harry I do feel my son all the time, like Edo my little baby boy was way too young, at just 10 weeks, we have had messages through Ouija that Blake is with my grandad, also dream messages to my mum that state the same, there is definitely something much bigger out there and I do genuinely believe that nobody ever dies, just changes form……. I feel sorry for those that think death is just the end, in fact I was watching an interesting documentary which someone said that we don’t really LIVE until we die, I would absolutely love to hear your thoughts on the afterlife Harry or Anna as I feel there absolutely IS one.

  128. Edo says:

    Thanks, Harry. Sorry for the details. He drowned in a swimming pool abroad, while on vacation. That was my worst phone call ever when my sister told me about the accident. You confirm my ideas about him being so “young”, with a temporary limited conscience due to his age. My mind is very calm about the facts, not much my heart, as even parent will agree. I understand that “death” is just an illusion, the same way when the sun “dies” in the horizon. Like Einstein said, the “energy” never dies, only it transform itself. I’m also very clear that we crossed our lives because we have been “working” together before, and will do in the future. When I arrived to the clinic where he was receiving his medical attention, maintaining his body alive artificially, I talked to him, trying to explain to him that everything will be ok, like the tibetan monks talk to the soon-to-die person, even though I was pretty sure that he had left his body the very first day of the accident. For sure he’s in a better place that we are, without all the physical limitations, and he was a quick learner on Earth, so he’ll adjust to his “new” world sooner. I only hope that I will be able to “see” his presence or notice his contacts in the near future. From the Karma point of view, I’m still trying to understand what was his purpose when we crossed our lives. Another detail that may clarify things is that he was adopted, so even though he was born away from me, we reconnect when he was 5 months old… and I missed him so much… Such that little creature leaving a huge void in my heart.

  129. Dawn says:

    My father passed away almost 5 years ago and I still miss him so much. It happened so fast and I was not prepared for it-not that we ever are. I have received alot of signs from him-butterflies landing on my hand and just staying there for a while, pieces of paper that he had written notes on and should have been trash I would find them. But the one that really seems to come the most are birds when I am sitting outside by myself. For a while it was a cardinal that would sit on the bush that was right new my patio the whole time that I was out there. Now I have two finch birds that are building a next in a handing plant(a fake plant at that) on my patio-within a few feet of where I sit on the patio. They fly right past me all the time. The one has some red on it-which I used to dye my hair red and my dad teased me about it. I just can not figure out what he is trying to tell me. Any ideas?

  130. david says:

    I have a question, when you die can you be any age in heaven, like you know, can you morph into your favorite age, in reason that, my uncle had an experience with my great grandfather who died in 1980, at age 80. My oldest brother is 32, and I just turned 16 about 2 months ago, but anyway, my uncle told me that one night, (this was ten years after my great grandfather died), he heard a glass object break on the floor, out of curiosity, he went into the room where the noise came from, so he had an interest to look at the dining room table, so as soon as he glanced, there was my great grandfather, at the age of 60 years old, sitting on the dining room table, replying to my uncle “you’ve done good Orlando”, then he disappeared. I’m the youngest brother in my family, I have 5 brothers, and 1 sister, I’m the only one going to school, cause they all graduated, but 12 years ago, my brother passed away in a motorcycle accident, I remember the accident, I was 4 years old at the time, but however, about 4 years after the accident, I was about 8 years old, and in the dream I dreamed that I was outside in front of my house, and there was my bro the same as always, he looked exactly the same, and he descended from the sky, and I was happy to see him, so out of curiosity, I asked him, I said “Mike, what is heaven like?”, and he replied “why you wanna come?” Then I instantly replied “no” cause I thought if I said “yes”, I’d die in my sleep, then about January, of this year, like the same week after new years like Saturday, my sister had a dream of this car pulling up to her house, and it was a ford explorer, like white, and also white in the interior, the type of color she said was undescribable, so she saw the window roll down, in the passengers seat, and there was my brother, he looked exactly the same, same 19 year old mike, so she got in the car, while she was fully in, my brother replied,”Listen Laurie we need to find Jeff(my other brother) so my sister replied “oh ok lets go”. So they were driving, and for some reason the road they were on was white, so as they came to an end, they came across the front of my school. My sister asked my brother mike, (the one who was driving the car),”where Jeff was?” So he pointed and there was my brother Jeff, but he looked horrible, as if he had a stroke, and my sister, asked “why are you looking like this?”, and Jeff replied “Denise”(She’s my brothers fiancee) then my sister woke up with a phone call and it was Denise calling her on the telephone. Now in your opinion, do you think we have the ability to be any age in the afterlife, if so, what were your experiences from your deceased loved ones? How did they appear to you?

  131. harry says:

    edo, just to say that you seem to know already that life isn,t finnished on so called death- this is good because you don,t have to be convinced- however what i say to none believers is this, if this is all there is to it all can you tell me what the purpose of it all is- and why do receivers of near death experiences all tell a similar story- plus many other things- of course we hear the one about endorhins and such like substances triggering off lights and all sorts of things within the brain- this is a very popular one that the sceptics use to explain the white tunnel effect that so many see on near death- like i stated several posts back my father was medically dead for minutes till they respirated him- and this was a man who didn,t believe in anything but while he was medically dead he had an out of body incident- he said that he was traveling through a tunnel towards the proverbial white light and he heard a voice say that he had to go back because it wasn,t his time yet- he also saw his body from a point above – well this would be a life changing thing for someone who didn,t believe or expect such a thing to happen, but we hear sceptics try to explain this one away too, however what if one could gain outside knowledge while out of body and then relay this on return- would this be so easily explained by a sceptic- i think not- i will give you one example- a woman was in hospital for what was no more than routine when she unexpecedly took a turn for the worst she called for the nurse with the buzzer and when the nurse arrived this woman said there is a man in another ward who is in need of your help- well the nurse thought this can,t be right and just tried to comfort the woman- however she insisted so much that the nurse agreed to go and see- well the ward in question was some ways away and they were separated by brick walls- it was a very old well built place- when the nurse got to were this woman had told her to go there was a man who had become detached from a machine and would have died imminently- well the nurse goes back to thank the woman and ask her how she could have known- but by the time the nurse got back to tha ward the woman had passed away herself, obviously while she was leaving her body just before crossing she saw this mans plight and came back momentarilly to inform the nurse and when this was done she continued to cross or at least be around for a while depending on the criteria of her crossing, now there are stories very simillar to that one and many others- however if one can gain knowledge of some sort while out of body it isn,t so easilly ridiculed by the sceptic, that is only one instance- you could say that was one of her lifes purposes no one really knows we can only conjeture- the person who would like to convince you that he has the answer to everything is just a fool or at least on an ego trip- we are all learning no matter how old we get- i certainly am- even though i can give people reasons for most things i am not perfect no one is – furthermore all knowledge could never be assimilated by one man or woman- it is far tooo vast- but rest assured your little one will return to see you- one can only hope you become sensitive enough to feel the presence- but give him a little while longer and start communicating with him as if he is still there, he will hear you there isn,t much doubt of that, he already knows you loved him because when they cross over eveything is energy to them that vibrate at differing frequencies so detecting what is in someones mind is first nature to them you might say – and they soon realise they only have to think to travel- of course its not distance as we know it but thats another issue, as for dreams or contact therein- this is possible but in reality we forget our dreams by the time we wake also most of our dreams are just a muddle that the subcoscious has to sort out- so if we do get contact during sleep then we have the daunting task of trying to decyphere what was contact and what was rubbish- unless we have something relayed to us that is so specific that there is no doubt, now let me explain how this can work at all- we vibrate at a much lower frequency than astral beings- and they of course much higher- communication can take place if we can higher our vibration and they can lower theres by a simillar ammount- well this is what happens while we are asleep- our vibration increase which makes it easier for them to make contact – i know for instance that they are capable of lowering there levels for this purpose- but the associated problem as i mentioned earlier means we have the job of sorting it all out after- thats if we remember- however you may try to ask you spirit guides to make any contact between you and your loved one just before you awake so that you may make notes of it as soon as you awake- keep pencil and paper at bedside at the ready- say to your spirit guide that you wish to make contact with your loved one then ask it be just before you awake- no guarantees but it may work and almost certainly might if you do it often enough- i hope i give you hope and a little cheer- little children are looked after on the other side and no doubt when you pass you will find he as grown to be very good looking young adult- the spirits say to us that there is no such thing as suffering or age or any of the earthly things that are so ugly- be cheerfully confident. harry,

  132. harry says:

    artisticgurl, firstly the moderators right about spam, also for other reasons i would prefer if you could confine your posts to this site, however i don,t think you have tooo much to worry about with people on here seeing what you write- it is a paranormal posting site after all- in an earlier post you said that you had only saw this person on tv and in your following post this was not mentioned- also your automatic writings if -they so be- are you in trace like state when you do them or nor- you also state tha you hope its not just what you want to hear- do tell me the answers to these 2 or 3 questions to begin with and we will endeavour to take it from there- and do calm down you will do yourself a misschief, ok – harry

  133. harry says:

    georgie, look at my post to edo, and take what you can from this and if you need something particular answered then fine- but just to say that there is a nuber of criteria on passing- for instance some spirits (a much lesser number) are tied to earth for a while after leaving their earthly body- this can be through a number of resons including not realising in the first instance one is deceased- may be because of a traumatic accident which took life instantly- in which case this can take a while to register as it were- however they are met by familliar spirits-family members on the other side may be – or even ones spirit guides- they can also prefer to remain for other reasons for instance remaining to see how loved ones are coping and many other reasons- however most will pass over much faster and in some cases almmost immediately, but the result is much the same – our purpose is to gain ever higher and higher status and knowledge and this earthly life and may be many many others is part of a learning curve that we must go through – did you know that we ourselves choose when how where and who we come back as, even our parents are chosen by us ourselves, we know instinctively the most profficient time to come back and further our education- there are experiences that we should learn- but we have free will when we come back so do not always follow the best track- however the opportunities will be there and if we don,t learn our lessons this time we will at sometime- it may surprise you that there is no such thing as time on the astral like we know it- and the reason it is so vast so to speak is that nothing takes space as we know it for it is not a materil or physical plane- it is the opposite of that- just like the universe is infinate the astral and all its spheres has no beginning and no end, a lot of people will never get their head around that so expect ridicule if you start talking about those things- we are all a bit weired to them just for showing interest in something other than soap operas- sad – i could rabbit for days but there you are- anything specific and i will answer. ok harry

  134. Artisticgurl says:

    Hi Harry. This man was very famous, he had touched so many lives when he was living. Because he is well known I would like to keep his name out for now. He was on a tv show that I watched. It was on like every Tuesday night, or maybe it was Thursday, I would watch it a little bit here and there then I began watching it more and more. The strange thing was every time I tuned to the channel that his show was on he was there talking. When I do my auto writings I relax and clear my mind. I think about this man and then I mentally ask for him by his first and last name and ask him if he could come and talk to me if he wasn’t busy. I would ask him to write down his name letting me know that he’s around,which he does. Sometimes it comes quickly while other times it takes a moment or two. I usually turn off the lights and sit somewhere quiet and close my eyes. I do wonder if it is my mind telling me what I want to hear because before this all began about a year ago I had watched his final episodes and I cried several days after that and I had wished that I could have known him and could have at least met him if not be important to him as a good friend or family member. I even wished I could have been his girlfriend or wife. For a time I wrote notes to him and lighting a candle and setting the candle down by the autographed picture I have of him I would read the letter to him hoping that he could hear me. I cried and I cried and felt like I would be in so much pain forever until I decided to join a well known fansite about the show this man starred in and thought it might help to talk to others who liked this show and especially this man in particular. I wrote a blog on the site telling people how I felt and the responses were so kind and inviting. This is where I met the woman who eventually told me that I have a Connection with this famous man. I told her that I was wishing how I could have met this man and how I wished I could have been his friend and even an important part of his life and that I honestly and truly care about this man with all my heart and soul. My freeware friend told me about communicating with the deceased and spirituality in general. This. Is where she picked up on my feelings for this man and she said that she could feel how much I cared for this and how much I still care about him. She asked me if I believed in connections and that’s where it evolved. Can you see why I think that this is all a trick being played on by my mind? It’s very odd to say “I wish this man and I could have at least met and been friends Nd even a girlfriend or wife and then someone comes and tells me that it’s possible that I am on the other side his friend and even more? It’s like I wish it and it comes true, well not here sadly but in heaven. By the way I won the autographed picture of this man off of eBay in case you were wondering. I had dreams after i watched his final episodes some that we’re very vivid. I even remember “dying” and going up to heaven and searching for him. I ended up at a bar on the docks where several boats were tied up and then I saw this man on his boat and I got so excited and. Yelled out his name and waving my hands in the air. The man looked at me and smiled and waved at me and walked off the deck and towards me. He seemed to go right through me and walked around a corner. I bolted upright in bed and called out his name. Sorry for going on and on and sorry for the long comment! There’s so much I want to say about this and what’s been happening lover this past year. I would be happy to provide more details about what’s been going on if you need it. Thank you Harry. I hope something is going on and that this man has been and is communicating with me. I will have to tell you about the necklace I have that I got for Christmas. It was in my dreams and it’s exactly the necklace that was being described by this man. He wanted me to have it, per the auto writings, and the funny thing is I found it right on his birthday! Sorry more rambling. Thank you for your help Harry

  135. chris says:

    I personally think we have the ability to be any age that we like best, people get confused that we are middle aged in heaven because Jesus was 33, I’m mean personally Jesus was able to control his body spiritually, so Jesus wanted to be 33 cause he wanted to be the age of 33, in reason that, that was the age the way most people recognized him, so honest to say if he was crucified at the age of 20, then i guess people would say we will be 20 in heaven, cause he was 20, how confusing, so the answer to your question David is yes you can be any age in the afterlife. What are your opinions?

  136. oralea says:

    Personally I would not be middle aged in heaven, I would be a teenager again in heaven like 13, even though I’m 25. How exciting!

  137. harry says:

    artisticgurl, i am going to be brutal from the outest, give it up- i can tell by the phrases and rushed manner in which you try to get your point accross that you will do no good pursuing this avenue in which you think you find yourself in, yes think- i hardly know where to start because there is so much wrong here and i would need an annex to put it all in, point one, its not for everyone to pursue this line of endeavour and i think certainly not you- point 2, if a good spirit from the other side knew how this would effect you he would not be doing this to you- there can on occassion be other entities who like having fun and causing strife at our expense, although not always but it can happen- did this person who alledgedly taught you how to auto write tell you how to protect yourself before you start ? :) point 3 auto writings if genuine are hardly legible because at the time of writing we are not in the same moto control so they are basically sribble- furthermore you probably would not know what you were writinng anyway because you would be in trance like state and would only see what you wrote after you became consciously fully aware, give it up girl find someone on this side to shed your attentions on, i might be interested in the paranormal but i have not gone soft- we have to live on this side for now so make it work- there is no way a genuine DECENT crossed spirit would be doing this to you because he would know well in advance how you would respond- this is also why a lot of people don,t get visited (at least to be noticed) because loved ones on the other side know how we would respond and some would be teriffied- give it up and i don, want to hear anymore about it alright- you will always find some weirdo who will encourage people to do things even when they know they may be doing harm to someone- if you carry on like this they will be sending for the men in white coats- get a life girl- you know it makes sense and you will thank me- tear up the photo put on some music and def all this out, do not take any notice of anyone who tells you otherwise, i could explain the dreams and all the other stuff but why should i- even if i were wrong AND I AM NOT you are not equiped to handle it, auto writing dear dear think girl- i am very astute and i know you knew a few of these things anyway- also before one carries out anything to do with contact there are ways of protecting one self first did this PERSON teach you that ? the only thing i want to hear from you is that you are going to get a life ok, i will always say what i think offend or please but it is for your own good, i have got real bad vibes coming over about this- if you dream forget it, if you fancied this man too late- you have your life here yet live it- if you wanted someone to encourage you in this foolish endeavour you have found the wrong man, stay away from so called paranormalists as well you were not built for it- and in any case the good ones are very few and far between- ok be well – be cheerfull and above all be sensible, harry

  138. harry says:

    david, so young and so interested- dave look before we begin i do not tell people just what they want to hear- i only tell it like it is ok, your question about appearance- this is one of the most simplest things for me to answer- and the answer is yes they can appear as they want- they only have to use the power of thought to appear as they want to us, however when they cross over if they are old or adult they become as they were in their prime- say twenties for instance- but if they want to appear to us they usually choose the way they were say some time prior before they crossed, or else we probably would not recognise them anyway- dave you see everything is energy vibrating at different frequencies so when one becomes just spirit again they can pick up on the energy emited by just about everything including us- thats how they always know what we are thinking- they can also travel to places by thought- however its not travel like we know it because it covers no distance in the physical sense- so called spiritists never seem to address these facts, you see the astral is infinite due to the fact it doesn,t take any space – its all here in the same vicinity as we are- dave i realise that it takes a bit of time to get your head around man but that i am sure you are sensible enough to take on board these revelations- furthermore if you are interested enough and get back for another dose so to speak then in due course you will begin to put 2 and 2 together and you will see in your own time how things work- i will always answer sensible questions and probably some of the none sensible ones as well i guess- furthermore about crossing – if a child crosses over it does not become adult on crossing- this takes time if i may use that word because there is no such thing as time as we know it on the astral- dave and if you can get your head around that lack of time then you are well on your way to understanding a whole lot more- but in your own time- it sometimes takes decades to ponder things- you are also very young and that is good because you have not yet become tooo earthly to want not to believe anything, also what you don,t very often ( if at all ) hear paranormalists address is the infinite planes there are on the astral- you hear some of them talk about the 5th level and the 9th level and all that rubbish but in actual fact there are infinite realms or planes all inter wound and also tied to earth too- you do not get this type of info from comic books- it takes time and i only wish that i had someone like my self to talk to when i was your age- it would have been a life changing thing for me, i think the best way forward is for you to ask any questions that you may have on the passing of individuals – family or whatever and anything else you may wish to ask – ok by the way where in the world are you – it will help to focus more on your situation- nothing tooo personal mind we don,t want to upset the moderator :) so get back if your up for it – ok bro. harry

  139. Kathy says:

    I have lost several people that have managed in many ways to send not only me but my family signs that they are still around.My boyfriend who died suddenly in his sleep, sent me signs through scents, electrical things going on and off. It went on for at least a year after he died. In the case of my father light bulbs in lamps mysteriously being loosened so that the lamps would not turn on or the lamps flashing on and off. My grandmother walked up the hall of my house with my deceased dog. I could hear the distinct sound of the heels from the shoes she wore and the dogs nails. The dog used sleep at the end of the hall. My family has always experienced signs from deceased family and or loved ones. My mother even received a call from her grandfather on the phone a year after he died. As soon as it registered in her mind who was calling her the connection went dead. My grandmother also experienced signs as do my siblings and other family members.It is comforting that these things happen but in my case I am still having a hard time with my father’s death and that of my boyfriend. Are some families more sensitive to these things?

  140. SadSister says:

    My brother passed away of drug/alcohol overdose on November 26, 2011. Since then I have had three strange dreams. One was on December 30, 2011. We were at a party, where there was drinking going on, and he was there. I knew he was dead but I ran up to him and held him and sobbed in his arms. He never said a word. My parents and family friends stood around us, looking sadly at me, shaking their heads telling me he was dead. I was aware he was dead in the dream but he was standing there, looking alive. That same night my husband had his first dream about my brother as well…I can’t remember the details of his dream but I thought it was strange we both had dreams about him for the first time on the same night. Then about a month or so later, I had another strange dream. One of my brother’s closest friends committed suicide 9 years ago…he was in the dream and the same thing happened. I saw him, I knew he was dead and he didn’t say a thing. I just hugged him and sobbed in his arms. Last night, I had another dream with my brother in it. We were at some sort of party again and all of a sudden he was there and he said “yep.” I heard him say this and I became overjoyed that I heard him speak, something I’ve been yearning to hear since his death. Again, I knew he was dead in the dream. Later in the dream, I saw him standing across a room and I went over to talk to him. He was extremely intoxicated and couldn’t stay standing…he was falling over everywhere, but I didn’t care as long as I could be near him. My father was in the same room as well but was just watching both of us, not saying anything. Then I woke up. Are these dreams possibly my brother and his friend trying to communicate with me? At least let me know they are ok. My brother’s apparent intoxication in the dream last night upset me because I wasn’t sure how to read it. Not sure if anyone has any thoughts on this…I just thought I’d share.

  141. Stephanie says:

    I don’t usually post comments on websites. My grandmother passed away in December of 2010. I took a week off from work to help with funeral arrangements and spend time with family. The following Monday morning I was driving to work and started to become extremely overwhelmed with emotion and the thought of just “returning to normal”. I was driving down the interstate and had the sunroof open. All of a sudden snow started coming down in my car very heavily, to the point I had to close the sunroof. The odd thing was that it was dark outside still and when it is snowing in the dark, you can clearly see the snow in the headlights, only there wasn’t any at all. It was only coming in my sunroof. It only lasted for seconds but it was enough to get snow in my hair and on my jacket and it was nowhere else. It was my Grandma telling me to stop crying and letting me know that she was okay. I just know it.

  142. harry says:

    sadsister, i would just like to say that i am no great advocate of dreams because there is far too much doubt involved and your left with the feeling of well- is it real or was it really them or was it just a normal dream- unless you can take away information from the dream that later proves to be spot on then you are never sure because of all the tangle of the usual rubbish that goes on in dreams and the very rare occasion we do get contact, its sad i know- there are those who would tell you that nearly every dream was contact but i am affraid its not, if you would like to know how you and your partner could have the same dream i would gladly explain- but it needn,t be because it was genuine contact, if you do want me to explain how the dream can effect two people at the same time- be prepared for a lot of long para speel, ok- it won,t be short i assure you – so you may want to leave it alone – but the choice is yours- i am here to answer questions – and that i certainly can do, i am a paranormalist- but i am a paranormalist with a foot firmly on this side as well as the other side and i will not give way to flights of fancy or the kind of make believe paranormal that goes on a lot, safe to say that the whole of my life has been spent looking for answers not just someones idea of what someone else thinks is- may be-or could be right- i was never satisfied with fancifull ideas and i will not tell you something is so if there is any doubt- you were the ones to have these dreams and its up to you to decide- real contact should feel good- you should feel warm and safe and know no harm would come to you- when you awake it should feel like a life changing experience- did it feel like that ?- people can dream of things they most deeply desire- but usually its the suconscious going through the events of the previous day- also if someone has had a trauma or a bereavement and that person is on your mind then you will like as not dream about them, it could also be the subconscious mind going through your fears and phobias, yes dreams can have meaning but i am affraid its not very often anything to do with spirit contact- SORRY – one must get real- however i am not saying that it cannot happen because i know it can- BUT not as often as we would like, and if there is a more down to earth explanation – me my self i would prefer to go down that road rather than imagine my self into a blue funk- OK MODERATOR :) X, will have my little laugh- no bad language here- —- You see there are lots of people who clutch at any straw (a bit like religion) but it doesn,t mean that its anymore the truth- i suggest you forget about the dreams for a while and if you want to address them again later and if you havn,t forgot them by then then thats a start- real contact through dreams you never forget- everyday dreams you will- if they were what you hoped they were then they should stay fresh in your mind possibly forever- the loved ones who have crossed communicate by thought alone not in any physical way- its all done with thought vibration so you never see their lips move, did any spirit speak to you in your dream ? if so did you see there lips moving ? they never do- they are pure spirit now and as such do not have any material facets- what we see in contact is a thought projection- incidentally they can appear to us as they wish, ponder these thoughts and come to your own conclusions- just ask anything you want ok-

  143. marie says:

    just had a friendy visit from my mom who passed away five months ago. She hung up my clothes and hand bags that wescattered across my closet floor. I’m still in a state of shock but also happy that she is still with me.

  144. Stephen says:

    LISA!!! i would love to speak to you….today is march 15 2012, my mam died on march 2nd from lung cancer, she was only 56, it happened 2 weeks after she was diagnosed :( it was a big shock to us all! i was in the sitting room last night watching “the blind side” and crying at the mother/son relationship!! i asked my mam to give me a sign she was ok and safe and with her parents. I told her i wasnt scared so even if she moved something then i would be so happy, nothing happened and i stayed awake downstairs until 7:30am coz i didnt want to go to my bedroom to sleep until it got bright out.

    I went upstairs and into my room, it was so bright i could see everything cleary as my curtains are very light. I went into bed and wrapped myself up tight i wasnt cold, was seemed like 5 minutes went by and what usually takes me hours to get to sleep i found myself drifting off, now heres the weird part.

    my eyes were closed and i wanted to open them but couldnt, i paniced a bit then i got extremely cold all over, i wanted to use my hand to open my eyes but couldnt move my fingers or my hands. i managed to open my eye slightly and i could see a figure/shape standing by my computer chair 2 feet away from my bed, i wasnt scared but it was so surreal, im sad as i couldnt really make out the face but then again it seemed as i wasnt allowed to look directly at the face with my own eyes, i know the shape was my mams height and build, there was another shape then facing the other way though…

    this happened three times in a row, i really want it to happen tonight but i want her to come through more clearly and maybe speak so i can hear her voice :(
    ive been told a day in the spirit world is a year in our world and shes only gone with two weeks so maybe her energy force isnt strong to come through properly yet….. i dunno ….

  145. Puleng Selebeli says:

    My name is Puleng
    I do believe in live afterdeath. Few days ago, my uncle who lives in another town came to give me the money that i could use for transport so that i could go prepare some documents for our house. This came after there have been some trouble going on about people who wants to take our house. There are only two of us, my baby sister and I.

    I did not have transport to school that week, therefore i used the money my uncle gave. I did not have the other one to go to my uncle’s place on the day we agreed to meet.

    I had a dream the night before the day i was supposed to travel. In a dream, i was travelling alone on foot. I met my two late grandmothers who were very happy to see. they were heading on the direction i was from but then decided on that point to go back with me for guidance on my way and assured me that i would be alright.

    Also before that dream, i had an eye problem. MY eye had been red for some weeks then. In my dream, my other grandmother checked my eye and told me it will soon heal.
    When i woke up the next day, my eye was no longer red. A friend of mine who lives in town arrived that morning and gave me the transport to go see my uncle. The greatest miracle is that, when i was about to leave their house, i was too scared to ask for another money. When my cousin went to draw some water at the tap, i decided to accompany her there. On the way, i saw her stepping passed the bank note.She did not seem to have noticed it. I then picked it up silently. It was enough to take me back home and for the month transport.

    I am not sure if i will be right to say it was my ancestral way of getting me out of my misery

  146. Nic says:

    I don’t how everyone seemed to find this sit. Apparently people have suddenly been visited more and more often by the dead. I’m no exception. Last night I had a dream about my brother. He was 5 1/2 years older than me, died 7 years ago this July, hit by a drunk driver. I won’t go in to too many details about the actual event, but what happened afterwords, and what happened last night. A couple weeks after my brother passed away my mother claimed that he visited her. I was furious. Not that he had visited her, because they were very close, but because he never came to visit me in my dreams. Over the last 7 years I’ve missed him, but I have moved on and learned to let him go. In the last year, however, I have seemed to start dreaming about him. Only a few dreams, and it was as if he was just there and had never left, but never anything truly interesting or signifcant that really grabbed my attention. Last night however, after 7 long years, I finally felt like he came to visit me. I remember the dream clearly, though I don’t know what the beggining of it meant. It started with me in a bathroom, looking in a sink. In the sink was a bunch of floss, and a bloody canine tooth. I turned on the faucet and the bathroom started to flood. From the sink, from the bathtub, and from a drain in the middle of the floor. I stepped out of the bathroom to avoid getting wet when i heard his voice say “looks like you have a (flood, leak, water..i can’t remember the exact word) problem.” I turned around to see my brother laying on a couch either watching t.v. or playing video games. we exchanged looks and a couple of words, then he asked me “hey, you wanna hang out for a couple of hours?” of course i said yes. i told him that i had to call my lieutenant and tell him that i was going to be late for work. i reached in to my pocket to grab my phone, and when i looked at, suddenly my alarm went off. Ironically my alarm is my cell phone, and i spent 15 minutes LOOKING for my cell phone the night before and couldn’t find it (it turned out to be on my desk, how i missed it i have no idea.) I got up to shut it off and was SO angry, because i felt cheated. I felt like i finally got my chance to spend time with my brother and it was stripped away from me. I’ve been sad, depprssed, and angry all day because i don’t know if i will ever have that chance again. i’ve been asking myself “what if i really was supposed to call in and say i was going to be late, and then go back to sleep? what if my brother was waiting for me to come back?” It’s not fair for me to have to ask myself these questions. Today was the first day in years since i can remember that i actually cried because i was sad. i searched google for ideas of what this all meant and i ended up hear. if anyone would like to comment, please do, but i think i honestly just needed to get this out. i’ve been holding this in all day because there’s no one i fell i can talk to, and all i needed was someone to listen. maybe now i can actually fall asleep, and if i’m lucky i’ll get another chance to hang out with my brother for a couple of hours. g’nite.

  147. Artisticgurl says:

    First of all Harry I don’t know you. Second of all you don’t know me or what’s in my heart. Goodbye. Thanks for nothing

  148. Leah says:

    Well said artisticgurl.. its not always a great idea to ask advice from strnagers on the net, sometimes it is, sometimes its not. you know your own heart better than a stranger, and very likely you know in your own gut what the answer to your question is.

    I am struck by harry’s ton. harry it looks like some people have got help from you off this site, but you also come off as having strong opinions and knowing what is best for others.

    Peace to all anyway.