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How to Connect with your Higher Self

Your Higher Self is the spirit part of you that is said to ‘reside’ in the Ether (the non-physical realm). It’s your Divine spark. This part of you helps you to keep on track with your Life’s purpose and in touch with your passion and joy.

Is my Higher Self the same as my Soul?

Yes, it’s the part of you that has access to all the wisdom amassed over the course of the many lifetimes you’ve lived, past, present and future. Some people like to make a distinction between Higher Self, Spirit and Soul. I’m not sure how useful these distinctions are unless you’re God and you need to get technical about it. 😉

What does my Higher Self do?

Your Higher Self is like a pure background consciousness that offers forth its wisdom and directions about where to go now. Sometimes these directions can take a while to come through into your mind consciousness. But, there are ways to access the wisdom of your Higher Self directly by bypassing the mind.

Your Higher Self is not ‘out there’ in the Ether. I want to put forward the idea that your Higher Self is you, your consciousness, in your body.

It’s you who set the course of your life and the things you came here to learn about before you even got here. It’s you whispering guidance to you about your highest path and purpose. It’s you who has your feelings in response to your thoughts, which create your reality. It’s you who set that up as a mechanism by which you could use those as spiritual feedback about where you’re headed in your life.

Am I ever separate from my Higher Self? I don’t feel connected to my Spirit.

You can sometimes be alienated from your Higher Self when you see yourself as an inferior being or when there are other beliefs you have which block you from the truth of who you are as a spirit.

Have you ever had that exciting feeling which tells you that you’re here to do great things? Have you ever had a humbling feeling that you’re someone really special, with a special perspective to bring? Those are background input from your Higher Self. We mostly drown out such input with our thoughts and our fears and when we listen to our fear, we feel disconnected from our spirit.

How can I be more connected to my Higher Self?

Connecting to your Higher Self means living your Spirit. It involves three things.

1. Empowerment – remembering that you are a child of the Universe, with the power to create your world

You came here to be incarnated in the physical and to keep a connection to your Spirit intact. You want to keep a connection to your Higher Self because that’s the part of you which knows where to go and, what to take on the journey and what to do to get there. Many souls who are incarnated here already do not have that connection anymore. They’ve lost it because they see themselves as separate from God or from the Divine energy that is the Creator of all things. People often treat themselves as if they’re at the mercy of an outside force that controls the course of our lives. This is the ‘normal’ way to be and behave.

Living your Spirit means remembering that you are God energy or Source energy in a physical body and the Creator of your world. The power inside you to create your world is the same power that creates worlds. It’s your life purpose to utilize it to create the world you want.

2. Intuition – talking to yourself

You don’t need to contact your Higher Self as an entity outside of you – it is you! And you don’t need to hire a psychic in order to contact your Higher Self (although you can if you’re particularly alienated and don’t know where you’re headed or what you want). The wisdom is inside of you, if you will access it.

Listen to your desires

Above all, pay attention to your desires. Your truest, heartfelt desires are feedback from your Higher Self about what you want to do now.

Living from your Higher Self means not sacrificing or ignoring those desires. It also means listening to those desires on a daily basis.

I manage my day by asking myself ‘what do I really want to do now?’ You might think that asking myself that means that the stuff I don’t want to do never gets done but it’s not the case. I actually regularly become inspired to overcome the challenges and the difficult tasks also, when the time is right, or I manifest someone to help me. I take my desires as feedback about the direction I want to go in. And when I remember to do it, it allows me to live in an inspired way.

Meditate and quiet your mind

The quickest way to practice accessing your truest self is meditation. It quietens the mind and the chatter which tells you who you are and what you can and can’t do and be and takes you straight to the quiet and calm which is your Higher Self. Start meditating by just focusing on your breath.

3. Healing – Clearing the clutter which stands between you and your truest self.

Most people don’t know they want healing – they just know that they feel bad. So what can you do if you mostly feel bad? What if you don’t know what to do to heal that? You can just put out the intention to be as aligned as possible with your Higher Self. Putting out that intention will put you on a healing journey back towards who you are.

If you have the energy to be proactive, make it your work to clear away anything which is not aligned with who you really are. Your Higher Self is pure joy. You know what is not aligned with your Higher Self by how good it feels. If you feel good, then it’s aligned with your Higher Self. If you feel bad, then it’s not aligned.

The clutter I’m referring to includes unhelpful beliefs such as ‘I’m not good enough’, any past associations or events which cause you to feel bad, any feeling which does not feel good to you is out of alignment with your Higher Self and it helps to find its source and purge the belief or attitude that causes it.


  1. Anna, beautifully said! What a great reminder for me, that my feelings are telling me so much, and I’m at my best when I listen to them. Puts a whole new meaning into the oft-maligned phrase ‘if it feels good, do it.’

    Many years ago, before I was consciously aware of my Higher Self, I wrote a poem of sorts that said ‘I am my own best friend.’ Gee, my Higher Self spoke to me even when I didn’t know it. Gotta love it —thanks for speaking so clearly to me today.
    .-= Jeanne´s last blog ..Happy Cows =-.

  2. Hi Jeanne – ‘I am my own best friend’ – I like that. Poetry and creativity is a good way for your Higher self to speak to you!

  3. Hi Anna,

    I’m intrigued when you say that your Higher Self is pure joy – I understand this, but I’m having a bit of trouble comprehending this mentally.

    Also, I was wondering if you could clarify what you mean by the difference between one’s unconscious mind and one’s higher self?

    Love, Rosh.
    .-= Rosh´s last blog ..Attitudes, values and beliefs =-.

  4. Hi Rosh,

    Hmm I wrote that article a while back. I guess these days I might say it differently. Your higher self is source energy mixed with some attributes/energies that you have taken upon yourself to bring into the physical. Source energy on the purest level is love energy – naturally high vibrational. I think that’s what I meant by pure joy.

    The difference between the unconscious mind and the higher self –

    The unconscious mind is the means through which your higher self can talk to you – it’s not your higher self. Your higher self will often place intuition into your unconscious mind first and it’ll filter gradually into your consciousness over time (your unconscious mind is much more receptive to intuitive messages than your conscious mind.) Messages from your higher self can often sit in your unconscious mind for a while before filtering through into your conscious mind. For example, you don’t realize you want to leave your job until it hits you one day. That realization will have been in your unconscious mind before it came through to you consciously. But it will have come from your spirit.

    I guess the unconscious mind is also the label we give to the part of you that processes all the things that happen during the day; all the thoughts and emotions you have and your desires that don’t rise to the surface – the conscious mind cannot possibly hold and process everything that goes on in your life and day. The unconscious is for that – and if it needs you to become conscious of something after it has sorted through all that data, it’ll put it into your consciousness.

    That’s the difference – hope that makes sense.

  5. It makes sense. Thanks, Anna, feels a lot clearer now. :)

  6. AWSOME totally agree with you here!!!!!:-)))

  7. A few days ago I was meditating, but it was different from other times when I’ve meditated before. It felt sort of dream like. Anyway, this particular time I was finding it really difficult to quieten my thoughts. Eventually my mind started following pictures and thoughts that seemingly came out of no where. And then, I *think* I spoke to my higher self. I’m not sure though. The voice sounded a little like mine, but it sounded more clear and it sounded concerned for me. The voice asked me questions, like why I didn’t want to be a Vet anymore, and why I wanted to be an author. And then the voice started asking me about my intentions. It sounded as if the voice was trying to make sure I was doing things for the right reasons, and not for selfish ones, and more importantly, making sure I was doing the things I truly wanted to do. Does this sound like my higher self? The voice and I also spoke a little about psychic development and how I could improve in certain areas. Was this my higher self I was speaking to? The first time I heard this voice was in 2008, and I was in a bad relationship. Me and this guy were splitting up, and I didn’t know what to do and where to turn. The voice came along when I was half asleep, and it gave me advise.

  8. Hi Anna, thanks for the article. I especially like the point about listening to our desires. So many times I have a desire to do something, but my logical mind can’t figure out how it can work out. Usually the barrier is money. Stepping forward into the unknown will show my higher self that I am starting to trust it more. So, more action, less paying attention to the blocks that I put in place.

  9. I wanted an answer so I was guided to this page by something inside me that wanted to connect with me. Now I know that it was my Higher self. LOL Thanks for this

  10. Good to know. I’ve been going through a rough period in my life, and I haven’t known what to do. It’s comforting to know that I’ve been connected to my true self all along, with my listening to my desires thing. Thanks.


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