In this article I’m going to talk about a question I often get from cord cutting clients and students, which is “Does cord cutting affect the other person?” In other words, when I cut a cord to someone, are they going to feel it? And will their behaviour change as a result?
Before we get started, I am just going to clarify what a cord of attachment is.
A cord is a negative energetic structure between two people. When we have a relationship with someone or become interested in someone, two attachments form. One is what I call the soul tie, which is the positive cord. This contains all the positive feelings and energies of the relationship, along with any of the information about the growth the two people will experience through this relationship or encounter.
The other energetic structure is the negative one we call the cord of attachment. This one contains negative dynamics which go back and forth between the two people and enter into their respective subconscious minds, negatively affecting them. This is the one we can cut. (By contrast, we cannot cut the positive soul tie.)
So, if you’ve cut a negative cord to someone, what can you expect? Can it affect them?
The answer is mostly no (a bit further on in this article, I’ll explain why I say ‘mostly no’, instead of just ‘no!’)
When you cut this energetic structure to someone, you are only cutting it on your end. You cannot cut it on their end. So after you cut it on your end, it still exists on their end.
You can’t cut it on their end because to do so would interfere with their free will.
Some people are perceptive enough to notice when you cut a cord to them — especially if you already have a strong energetic connection with the person you’re cutting a cord to.
This is a bit like when you stretch a rubber band (this is before you cut the cord) and then at the moment you cut the cord, the rubber band loses all its tension, and any push-pull dynamics which may have been a part of the relationship will suddenly lose their energy and dissipate. If the other person is invested in those push-pull dynamics, they may notice and wonder if something is up. I’ve had clients tell me stuff like, the person they just cut a cord of attachment with, texted them a minute after we were cutting it in a session. This happens!
But apart from that scenario, people do not tend to notice when you cut a cord to them, and it does not affect their behaviour directly because of the cord cutting.
Sometimes their behaviour can change as an indirect result of the cord cutting. So, what I mean by this is that if you cut a cord, and your behaviour towards the person is different after you cut the cord (which can happen), they notice that and respond differently. So essentially, you two create a new dynamic through the cord cutting, as a result of how you feel and behave afterwards. That is quite possible.
One thing to be aware of:
There is another energetic attachment that we can form to people, called a psychic tie. Most often when people think they are cutting a negative cord, they’re actually just cutting a psychic tie. Lots of guided meditations out there take you through a process where you’re cutting a psychic tie, but they call it ‘cord cutting’, even though it isn’t.
Here’s how to tell the difference between the two:
A psychic tie:
- Is a minor energy connection that we can form to anyone we interact with. These are really thin connections that look as thin and easy to remove as spider webs
- Only takes a few minutes to cut and is quite a simple process where you’ll call on an archangel and just ask for the cord to be cut or visualise that it is cut.
- Psychic ties also come back later (whenever you think of the person again, or interact with them)
- You also tend not to notice much of a result or change in your life when you cut a psychic tie.
Negative cords, on the other hand:
- Are a major energy connection that once it is cut, does not come back
- Are more complicated to cut. The process usually involves several steps, and the most important step is reflecting on what you learned through this relationship or connection. This process usually takes at least 30 minutes.
- Can produce some very noticeable results and changes in your life once they are cut.
I teach people to cut cords properly, as a healing modality that they can use for themselves or for another person, in my Professional Intuitive Healing Program.
If you’d like to sign up for the wait list for this program which will open again later this year, you can do so here.