Over the last 18 months I’ve had various questions from readers about the topic of whether we can manifest for other people, such as:

My husband has X bad habit — can I manifest him to change?

My nephew has fallen in with the wrong crowd and is doing drugs — can I manifest change for him?

My mother has cancer but doesn’t believe in the LOA — can I manifest a healing for her?

As you may know, the LOA teacher who has had the biggest influence on my understanding of the Law of Assumption is Neville Goddard.

Neville Goddard has this idea of “EIYPO” (“everyone is you pushed out”).

He taught that everyone around you conforms to your assumption of them, and that what you assume to be true about other people, is what will manifest.

I wrote about this EIYPO topic in the early days of blogging on the LOA. Since then, I’ve had many experiences of manifesting for other people (and so have my clients) and as a result, I’ve come to an understanding of this topic that is more nuanced.

I’m going to share what I’ve learned about EIYPO and manifesting for other people in this article in the last few years.

Many Law of Assumption teachers and practitioners believe that ‘EIYPO’ means that you can control everyone in your reality through your thoughts and assumptions of them. I don’t 100% believe in this because it hasn’t been my experience that this is possible in every case.

I do believe that everyone around you is a reflection of your self-concept. We teach people how to treat us, and this does happen through our thoughts, because our thoughts translate into words, actions, boundaries, body language and the way we communicate things. People unconsciously gather information on all of those things and respond to them.

If we have a poor self-concept, we are more likely to be surrounded by people who treat us poorly, partly because we’re more likely to accept that.

If we have a poor self-concept but we raise it, one of two things will happen: either people will meet us at our new level, or they will leave our lives.

I don’t believe we can control how people behave towards us — instead I believe in vibrational alignment. We fall in and out of vibrational alignment with people, and then they must either choose to meet us at our new place, or if they can’t, they will make their exit. So, something to bear in mind is that when you change yourself, it can disrupt your relationships. (Lots of people have the experience of their life emptying out after they have completely transformed themselves – this has happened for some of my clients.)

“There is nothing to change but self”

Neville Goddard taught that “there is nothing to change but self”. He said that if we want to change our external reality, we have to change ourselves and our self concept first. That is the piece I agree with. But I disagree with him about what happens when we do that. Many practitioners of the Law of Assumption think that other people MUST reflect our new self concept back to us (and if they don’t, you failed at your manifestation), but that’s not what has happened in every case for myself and my clients.

People do not always conform to our desired outcomes. People are not puppets that can be forced into change by us and they have their own soul’s path to walk. Sometimes they can change when we change, but other times the people in our lives can’t handle the ways in which we have changed and they make their exit.

The latter scenario is more likely to happen with toxic and personality disordered people.

So, my understanding of EIYPO and manifesting for other people has shifted significantly over the last few years, from Neville Goddard’s idea of ‘EIYPO’ to something that is more in alignment with the Law of Attraction.

Here are the ways I believe we can manifest change in others:

1. We can bless other people by visualising them happy, healthy and thriving. If it aligns with their soul’s path and they can receive that blessing (similar to a prayer), they will receive it and it will influence them positively.

If it doesn’t align with their soul’s path and they don’t want it, they won’t receive it.

2. We can do ancestral healing and change our family line that way. But again, the people in our family line must be open to receiving that healing. Some of them may not be.

3. We can improve a relationship with someone by visualising or affirming for a relationship that has more harmony. But the other person has to have some degree of underlying psychological health in order for that to happen.

I don’t believe we can bring more harmony (in a long term way) into a relationship with someone very unhealthy, for example: people with narcissistic personality disorder. We can sometimes manifest a relationship where we see another side to that person in the short term, but it’s unlikely that we are going to change the brain structure of that person or how they are wired, through our manifesting. I’ve never seen a personality disordered person change through someone else’s manifesting and I don’t believe manifesting that kind of change is a good use of one’s creative energies. I also think it is dangerous.

4. Something else that I’ve noticed about relationships is that we can often manifest more harmony by letting go of what is irritating us (but of course, this is easier said than done sometimes!) What we resist, persists. When we let go of our resistance in the relationship, the other person senses it and may stop fighting us on a certain issue.

I’ve also noticed that people who focus on building their auric field with daily LOA techniques, and who are ‘filling their own cup’, so to speak, tend to have more harmony in their relationships. When we seek fulfilment within and we focus on building our energy using LOA techniques without being so dependent on others for our wellbeing, that is a more powerful place to manifest change from. When we are energetically depleted, other peoples’ behaviour impacts us much more. Many people have depleted energy fields and when this occurs, we become more dependent on the people around us to be a certain way. Our relationships become more conditional.

But by seeking fulfilment within, we release the people around us to be and behave a certain way. But again, this does not apply to improving relationships with personality disordered and toxic people. To make a relationship with a personality disordered person more unconditional is dangerous.

So, this fourth point only applies to relationships which are already healthy but have a few niggles.

So, in summary: to answer the question ‘can we manifest for other people?’

Yes, we often are able to, if the other person is willing to receive whatever it is we are manifesting for them.

To this end, I recommend the following:

1. Raise your own self-concept and build your energy field with LOA techniques where you are focusing on positive energies more generally (such as Joe Dispenza’s meditations)
2. Then visualise and intend a positive change in someone else
3. Next, let go of the outcome

If you can’t let go of the outcome, go back to point 1 and keep at it until you feel you can release it.